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I'm having a real quandary with my son right now and need advice from other divers with kid/teenage divers. He got certified in Hawaii [pool and class done in AZ]; we had a great time and did alot of diving beyond his OWC dives.
I didn't buy him gear cuz I knew he'd just grow out of it quickly, and I don't have that kindof money to throw away. Turns out I was right, he's grown probably 6"; gained weight, lost weight, gained weight..since our Hawaii trip last November, he's now taller than me.
During our Memorial Day visit to Socal the conditions were right and I decided it was time for him to break his cherry with CA shore diving [where 90% of my diving is done]; first time he'd been wet since Hawaii and first temperate/lower viz dives; which I don't think was really a factor. However his skills and more importantly to me his awareness had diminished quite a bit and I was really unhappy about that, he wasn't familiar with his rental BC so his buoyancy was awful. When I tried to point out issues, the teenage hormones and attitude reared their ugly head.
I really wanted to take him to the local lake to work on this stuff prior to the upcoming summer months, but at $50+ for rental gear/day, to go burn a couple tanks at the lake [total cost about $100]; due to schedule, school, etc, not to mention what do I do with my daughter while we're uw [single parent], and he's a teenager so anything that comes out of my mouth no matter how constructive and nice I try to put it tends to be taken the wrong way. It just never happened.
Now we have a boat trip to Catalina on the 22nd already booked and paid for; but I am hesitant letting him dive, I am trying to ask myself; am I being overly protective [which I am with both my kids] and overly critical of his skills when he's such an inexperienced diver, I mean I've seen a whole h-e-l-l of a lot worse divers, but I don't have to dive with them and they're not my kid.
How do I get him more experience without going broke on rentals? How do I keep his interest if we are just working on skills and I don't let him go on fun dives e.g Catalina? If I don't let him dive he'll probably just think I'm being an a-hole [what else is new] or lose interest completely.
A little more background, the only gear I am considering for him would be a BP/W with a hog harness, so as he grows we can adjust and he'll grow familiar with it and will be something that lasts for years, instead of rental gear. However, he has already told me he doesn't like shore diving [which nix's about 90% as I said of the diving I do], I don't think he'll like Lake Diving, if he didn't like getting geared up in a 7mm in CA and standing around for a few minutes, It's 10x's worse at the lake in 100+ degree heat and with alot less to see, so what are we left with the occassional boat dive. Not really the return on investment that I'm looking for, I haven't given up on him and shore diving yet, but it'll be a hard sell. He also tends to quit hobbies as fast as he gets into them, his mother and I have spent thousands on gear for various things that never gets broke in, he has a new guitar sitting in his closet, played 1 time. So that's why I'm hesitant about buying him any more gear. If he showed more than a passing interest it would be different; but he's a teen and difficult to read. He always tells others he had fun diving but never me.
I want him to dive, if he wants to, I never force him, I only ask if he'd like to it's up to him at that point, it's really our only common hobby and "quality" time he'll spend with me, but I want it to be safe and FUN for the both of us, I didn't have fun last time.
I'm definitely going to get him on the phone [he's already in CA at the grandparents having some summer fun] and try to have a heart to heart/man to man with him about my concerns and see where his head is at before I decide.
I was hesitant about posting this thread for the flames and typical reponses I will no doubt encounter, but occassionally someone throws out a gem
Any advice or helpful tips appreciated...
Garrett
I didn't buy him gear cuz I knew he'd just grow out of it quickly, and I don't have that kindof money to throw away. Turns out I was right, he's grown probably 6"; gained weight, lost weight, gained weight..since our Hawaii trip last November, he's now taller than me.
During our Memorial Day visit to Socal the conditions were right and I decided it was time for him to break his cherry with CA shore diving [where 90% of my diving is done]; first time he'd been wet since Hawaii and first temperate/lower viz dives; which I don't think was really a factor. However his skills and more importantly to me his awareness had diminished quite a bit and I was really unhappy about that, he wasn't familiar with his rental BC so his buoyancy was awful. When I tried to point out issues, the teenage hormones and attitude reared their ugly head.
I really wanted to take him to the local lake to work on this stuff prior to the upcoming summer months, but at $50+ for rental gear/day, to go burn a couple tanks at the lake [total cost about $100]; due to schedule, school, etc, not to mention what do I do with my daughter while we're uw [single parent], and he's a teenager so anything that comes out of my mouth no matter how constructive and nice I try to put it tends to be taken the wrong way. It just never happened.
Now we have a boat trip to Catalina on the 22nd already booked and paid for; but I am hesitant letting him dive, I am trying to ask myself; am I being overly protective [which I am with both my kids] and overly critical of his skills when he's such an inexperienced diver, I mean I've seen a whole h-e-l-l of a lot worse divers, but I don't have to dive with them and they're not my kid.
How do I get him more experience without going broke on rentals? How do I keep his interest if we are just working on skills and I don't let him go on fun dives e.g Catalina? If I don't let him dive he'll probably just think I'm being an a-hole [what else is new] or lose interest completely.
A little more background, the only gear I am considering for him would be a BP/W with a hog harness, so as he grows we can adjust and he'll grow familiar with it and will be something that lasts for years, instead of rental gear. However, he has already told me he doesn't like shore diving [which nix's about 90% as I said of the diving I do], I don't think he'll like Lake Diving, if he didn't like getting geared up in a 7mm in CA and standing around for a few minutes, It's 10x's worse at the lake in 100+ degree heat and with alot less to see, so what are we left with the occassional boat dive. Not really the return on investment that I'm looking for, I haven't given up on him and shore diving yet, but it'll be a hard sell. He also tends to quit hobbies as fast as he gets into them, his mother and I have spent thousands on gear for various things that never gets broke in, he has a new guitar sitting in his closet, played 1 time. So that's why I'm hesitant about buying him any more gear. If he showed more than a passing interest it would be different; but he's a teen and difficult to read. He always tells others he had fun diving but never me.
I want him to dive, if he wants to, I never force him, I only ask if he'd like to it's up to him at that point, it's really our only common hobby and "quality" time he'll spend with me, but I want it to be safe and FUN for the both of us, I didn't have fun last time.
I'm definitely going to get him on the phone [he's already in CA at the grandparents having some summer fun] and try to have a heart to heart/man to man with him about my concerns and see where his head is at before I decide.
I was hesitant about posting this thread for the flames and typical reponses I will no doubt encounter, but occassionally someone throws out a gem
Any advice or helpful tips appreciated...
Garrett