Fuzzmutton:
Me too!
Being told that the good stuff is all shallow, you dont have enough experience, its no big deal, etc. is hooey.:mooner:
At depth, I had an unreasonable fear. I worked at figuring out where it came from. For me, it is claustrophobia. It is not rational, but it is real. I once felt the crush of claustrophobia in a Wyoming wheat field miles from anywhere or any mountains. The crush of that much open sky just put me over the edge.
The same goes for being under water at depth. When I realize that I cant simply surface from a particular depth, the feeling is exactly the same as being in a slow moving elevator between floors. My heart rate goes up. My breathing rate goes up. It feels as though Im sucking cold molasses through a coffee stirrer trying to get air out of my reg. (BTW I dive with a Legend LX ACD, too! great reg and much freer than my old reg.)
What helped me was understanding the root of my problem and getting a pony bottle. Now that I understand where the anxiety came from, and I have my redundant air supply right there on my right side, I havent felt the same anxiety level at all. In fact, now, I rather enjoy being at depth because, for me, it represents overcoming my fear. It has also made me much more patient with new divers who face fears of their own.
Working on air sharing drills with your husband is a great idea. So are the tips from Spectrum. Try to analyze your fear and see where yours is coming from. Think about getting a pony bottle and using it. Keep diving. Once you manage to work through your fear, both diving and the conquering of your fear will be an empowering experience and feeling!
Obviously, cave diving is not in my future. And diving Devil's Throat in Coz is not going to happen, either. You should see my SAC rates for the few swim throughs I
DID try in Coz.I think one was a 1.2!
Cheers!
Ian