I rank the priorities as follows: Most important - holding a 20ft stop with 'near empty' tank. I actually want to be able to stay on the bottom in any depth less than 10 ft. but holding a 20ft stop without needing to grab rocks is pretty much mandatory in my books.
Second is trim. You should be able to hold a horizontal position without pivoting in an uncontrolled manner (i.e. tilting to the right or left, or tilting head down etc.). If you can hold horizontal without effort then you should be able to position yourself in any orientation. I consider this extremely important if you wish to take good photos.
Third is submerging. On the surface, you should be able to RELAX, exhale and sink at a pace that does not rocket to the bottom, but does descend nicely. From surface to 10 ft, if you watch your depth gauge I like to see it drop about 1 ft per second or two (that's 30-60ft /min).
You should be able to get deeper than 4ft before you need to inhale, and don't fill your lungs - just breath easy on that first breath so you continue to descend.
<EDIT> Once I am at about 4 ft down (sometimes less), I do rotate from feet first to horizontal and continue the descent in a horizontal orientation so I can look about easily. </EDIT>
The only time I had to "duck dive" was very early on when I was borderline underweighted and very inexperienced. It takes time to learn to relax and 'let it happen' on descents.
As to diving like a "real diver", and not like you are taught in OW class, what utter B.S. Even the "GUI dive gods" teach feet first descent. If they still do it, it must be the right way. ;-)