A risk worth taking ????

[unclewas]

Dive with him every chance you get and treasure everyone.

was

 

[docmojo]

If it were me, I would go diving with him... Sooner or later he will be gone it's just part of living. The time you put into not diving with him or making him upset about diving is wasted time. Life is too short and unless you take your own live..... God will take you home on his time..... Love your dad while he's with you... lifes a gift....

 

[LavaSurfer]

You don't understand. DADDY's NOT GOING TO QUIT! It doesn't matter who tells him that. Even if God himself told my Dad to stop. He's not going to. He went to a specialist, but won't tell me what they said. He doesn't want anyone else telling him to stop. My Dad will be the one to choose one more dive over 10 years of life. (but of course in the back of his mind he's saying he'll survive)

My concern and questions aren't about my Dad. They're about MY actions to his decision to continue.

If he won't stop and he won't get help then if I were in your shoes I would get the tanks and spend time with him. I have thought a lot about this since you started this thread and that’s where I am at.

I know that if "They" told me no more diving I would get the tanks and go diving. Life is already too short to sit on the sidelines and passively patch it go by.

"I'd rather die while I'm living than live while I'm dead"
Jimmy Buffett, Growing Older but not Up.

Spend time with him and love him for his decision. That's all you can do.

Sorry about the quote but I do believe in it

 

[DandyDon]

If he won't stop and he won't get help then if I were in your shoes I would get the tanks and spend time with him. I have thought a lot about this since you started this thread and that’s where I am at.

I think she said that he did see a Cardiologist, but won't tell what he said. And since the specialist is not an old family friend like the first doctor mentioned in the thread, she has no access to him.

 

[Randy43068]

luggin' the gear can be pretty strenious. Getting on a dive boat can be. Gearing up on a boat can be... being in the water, not so much.

 

[LavaSurfer]

I think she said that he did see a Cardiologist, but won't tell what he said. And since the specialist is not an old family friend like the first doctor mentioned in the thread, she has no access to him.

Thats what I meant by "he won't get help"
Seeing a Cardiologist and taking his advice are two different things.
He is a grown up with the ability to choose and it sounds as if she has done everything she can.

I can see my dad pulling the same thing. My mom would go nuts but he is hard headed and does what he want's.

She just needs to support him.

Its a tough situation but I know what I would do.

 

[scubajoh44]

I did have a long talk with him this weekend. I agreed to continue to dive with him if he would see a specialist with a background in "dive science." We will have to travel to Dallas (5 hours) but it will be worth it. He didn't tell me what his regualar cardiologist said because he doesn't know. He just said the doctor gave him some pill and now he takes them. That's just how he is. I'll go with him next time.

I can't see a Dr. (specialist) telling him to quit. None of our dives are stressful. (I tote the gear and he slips into the water) How hard is that? I just don't know all the stuff about how depth and pressure affects the body and heart. I guess we'll find out. We have an appointment Nov. 28.

Yes, I am rescue certified and we take oxygen with us everywhere.

By the way....... The ONLY way I got him to talk about it and agree to go to the Dr. of my choice was because we went on a long road trip together........diving

 

[Firefyter]

I did have a long talk with him this weekend. I agreed to continue to dive with him if he would see a specialist with a background in "dive science." We will have to travel to Dallas (5 hours) but it will be worth it. He didn't tell me what his regualar cardiologist said because he doesn't know. He just said the doctor gave him some pill and now he takes them. That's just how he is. I'll go with him next time.

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By the way....... The ONLY way I got him to talk about it and agree to go to the Dr. of my choice was because we went on a long road trip together........diving

God bless you....I keep telling people that there's nothing in the world better than a Daddy's girl, and you're an outstanding example. I'm praying that you and your dad have lots more time together to enjoy that bond.....

In case you couldn't tell, I think you're taking the perfect course of action.....

 

[Potapko]

It is a very selfish person who does whatever they want without consideration for the needs and desires of those around them. I would tell my father to think of his family before himself.

 

[ranger979]

It is a very selfish person who does whatever they want without consideration for the needs and desires of those around them. I would tell my father to think of his family before himself. (which is the right thing to do)
IMSLTHO That is- In My Sometimes Less Than Humble Opinion

I'm glad it's so simple for you.