drrich2
Contributor
I love diving; my wife got her OW and Nitrox cert.s and 'dabbled' years ago, but was content with a few dives a trip and she hasn't dove since well before getting pregnant with our now 7-year old. Practically speaking, she's a non-diver, and of course the 7-year old is.
Some couples make diving 'their' thing - I know of one who only dive together.
Having different interests is fine. There is more to it with a traveling recreational scuba hobby, though.
1.) Solo trips let you maximize diving, and I have been blessed to do a number of these. This leaves the spouse dealing with the kid and pets alone, spends significant money on the pleasure of one person, and both parties need to get past jealousy. The typical dive destination does not feature the cast of Baywatch back and forth along a beautiful sandy beach. Traveling alone means buddy diving, group diving or solo diving unless you take a dive buddy with you.
Tres Pelicanos & Casa Mexicana, Cozumel Sept. 2018 Report - Tres Pelicanos/Casa Mexican Trip Report Sept. 2018 8-Day Bonaire trip.
2.) If you spend a lot of time and money on 'just you,' your partner may want to do the same. Be sure you're cool with some separate vacations. Can you two afford doing all this?
3.) A scuba trip disguised as a family vacation (what my wife calls my family trips for us) cost double or more (no small thing), feature less diving (but more topside enjoyments) and 3 (4 if mother-in-law's along - she's cool and fun to have) people have a good, enriching time instead of one.
St. Croix Research Report Aug. 2017 - St. Croix Research Report Aug. 2017
Curacao Trip Report with SB Surge Jan. 2019
4.) How high maintenance is your S.O. on vacations? Some non-divers are content to sip drinks reading in a hammock, some go shopping, but some want to spend lots of 'couples time.'
5.) The idea of separate vacations, or going places alone, may bother some people. Make sure neither of you has an issue with it.
Some destinations lend themselves to a compromise. In light of the travel time to offshore sites and deep/nitrogen-loading, 2 dives/day were pretty much going to be it on a Morehead City, NC trip to dive with sand tiger sharks. It was a similar situation with Jupiter, Fl my first trip (note: Jupiter Dive Center did offer some 3-tank trips, and Emerald Charters did 3/day).
I have had 'family' trips with good dive counts (St. Croix - 15 dives over 8 days; Key Largo - 20 dives) but I'm at risk for the dreaded stink-eye and 'I thought you were going to spend more time with us.'
So I'm thoroughly on the side of 'separate interests are fine,' with the caveat in practice there's more to it, and you both need to think through the issues (and potential conflicts).
Some couples make diving 'their' thing - I know of one who only dive together.
Having different interests is fine. There is more to it with a traveling recreational scuba hobby, though.
1.) Solo trips let you maximize diving, and I have been blessed to do a number of these. This leaves the spouse dealing with the kid and pets alone, spends significant money on the pleasure of one person, and both parties need to get past jealousy. The typical dive destination does not feature the cast of Baywatch back and forth along a beautiful sandy beach. Traveling alone means buddy diving, group diving or solo diving unless you take a dive buddy with you.
Tres Pelicanos & Casa Mexicana, Cozumel Sept. 2018 Report - Tres Pelicanos/Casa Mexican Trip Report Sept. 2018 8-Day Bonaire trip.
2.) If you spend a lot of time and money on 'just you,' your partner may want to do the same. Be sure you're cool with some separate vacations. Can you two afford doing all this?
3.) A scuba trip disguised as a family vacation (what my wife calls my family trips for us) cost double or more (no small thing), feature less diving (but more topside enjoyments) and 3 (4 if mother-in-law's along - she's cool and fun to have) people have a good, enriching time instead of one.
St. Croix Research Report Aug. 2017 - St. Croix Research Report Aug. 2017
Curacao Trip Report with SB Surge Jan. 2019
4.) How high maintenance is your S.O. on vacations? Some non-divers are content to sip drinks reading in a hammock, some go shopping, but some want to spend lots of 'couples time.'
5.) The idea of separate vacations, or going places alone, may bother some people. Make sure neither of you has an issue with it.
Some destinations lend themselves to a compromise. In light of the travel time to offshore sites and deep/nitrogen-loading, 2 dives/day were pretty much going to be it on a Morehead City, NC trip to dive with sand tiger sharks. It was a similar situation with Jupiter, Fl my first trip (note: Jupiter Dive Center did offer some 3-tank trips, and Emerald Charters did 3/day).
I have had 'family' trips with good dive counts (St. Croix - 15 dives over 8 days; Key Largo - 20 dives) but I'm at risk for the dreaded stink-eye and 'I thought you were going to spend more time with us.'
So I'm thoroughly on the side of 'separate interests are fine,' with the caveat in practice there's more to it, and you both need to think through the issues (and potential conflicts).