nitroxbabe once bubbled...
WTF? "Humble them out"???
OK, it's like this... a 16-year old kid has to EARN respect, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. And ESPECIALLY because he is young and inexperienced.
Any other "old buggers" have any comments?????
Well, seems a nerve was struck on that one. I have always been the young guy of the group and learned that when put into adult situations, I should not have to work any harder than anyone else to earn the respect of my peers. That's what the other people are in his class, regardless of age, they are his peers.
Here is an example for you, I started working the road on an ambulance at just 19. I was the youngest guy around then and for a while after. The people that I worked with, for the most part, were and still are my peers. Most of them treated me with the same respect that they would have given someone their age. And yes, some of them old enough to be my parents. Some of them did not give me any respect at all, no matter how good I was at my job, or worked for it from them. They discounted me solely on the basis of age. About half of those people still do discount me because of my age, saying I am young and inexperienced, that I should respect them because of age and expereince while I get no respect from them. Well it doesn't work that way, at least not with me. EVERYONE regardless of age has to earn respect, it is not a given, ever. It is a two way street and both lanes are of equal width.
You'll really make yourself popular if you go around insulting other divers. You'd be better off to try to learn something from them.
My diving is not a popularity contest. The people that I want to learn from have already realised that regardless of my age, I too have experience and knowledge to share. They have earned my respect and in turn, I have earned theirs.
Have you considered taking the higher road and not responding aggressively by trying to "humble" someone? Setting a classy example is a far better choice, IMO. That would earn MY respect.
That's the type of person that I am. In fact, that's what alot of people older than me tell me that they like most about me. The fact then when I want something, I go and get it. If I want to say something I do. I am mostly an assertive person, but I get mildly aggressive when something gets personal. As for setting the example, isn't it customary for the older and wiser to be setting the example for the younger and inexperienced?
The intent of my previous post was not to offend you Nitroxbabe.
Though maybe a little less harsh response would be indicated in that situation. Maybe setting the example for the older and wiser by explaining the earning of respect from peers? With reflection on my previous post, I think that would be a better way of going about it, no?
