Personally I think it's a moot arguement. I've never seen an OOA diver - and barring a tank blow out (also never seen - didn't really hear about, except in theory) - it should never happen. If my buddy, (normally my wife) ever had a tank go I'd have a back up reg in front of her face probably before she realized what had happened - I'd see the bubbles while she was still wondering WTF. If she or anyone else ran their tank down at depth so that they weren't going to make it back up on their own, again - I'd know, and be ready. Isn't that what a buddy is for???
I agree that because of the different procedures involved DIR tends to stick with DIR. I also normally only dive with people that share the same procedures as me - it makes sense. It's a very good idea to check those procedures in pre-dive planning when you hit the water with someone new - it's good to be on the same page, whatever that page is.
As far as the statistics I think that you are correct - OOA doesn't really happen often. Most accidents I've heard about come from too fast ascents - and that I have seen - and on several occasions have forcibly grabbed someone and dumped BCD air to pull them back down. That said, that's what I try very hard to impress on a new buddy that I don't expect to see - or that their tank is at 20bar at 25 meters.
Actually the only other person right now that I dive with except my wife is a Japanese JUDF instructor. He doesn't even have an octopus - probably why JUDF still requires old school buddy breathing skills!!!