drrich2
Contributor
Mark:
I referred to it as an art because sometimes expressing oneself effectively and with vigor without offending requires some thought and intuitive understanding. I've seen posts on this forum (and elsewhere) where people express themselves in such a way as to sabotage their own persuasiveness and antagonize others, presumably without trying to (not trolling).
On the other hand, there are people so thin-skinned that they seem to need unseemly levels of reassurance and gentleness if confronted or corrected.
Walking the more effective path between extremes, and not letting other peoples' antagonism trigger you to react and inflame the situation, can be difficult at times. I like TS&M's posts as an example. We have some other posters who are more willing to confront and argue, but do so civilly without going overboard and maintain respectability and effectiveness.
Of course people can ask for clarifications. Sometimes a person's reasoning is as important as their position, especially when the other person may have somewhat different needs and preferences. If me & one of the tec. divers argue over the desirability of AI in a dive computer, and a newbie might like to know that I like having my start & end pressures and SAC automatically logged for download to my computer, but the tec. diver plans his dives so well, and has such a grasp on his consumption, that he knows his SAC, knows what his pressures will run (roughly) at varied points in the dive, and trusts an SPG more than a wireless transmitter for a wrist unit. Then the newbie can decide for himself whether AI is something he wants to pay for and use.
Richard.
P.S.: It's worth noting that on some topics, like the adequacy of basic OW training as widely practiced under the mainstream agencies, some on the forum believe the standards and actual practice are overly lax and pose a hazard to incoming divers. Some are legitimately worried by what, to them, seems dangerous combined with undue complacency. I can understand when some of these folks get 'testy,' even when I disagree with them on some points.
I referred to it as an art because sometimes expressing oneself effectively and with vigor without offending requires some thought and intuitive understanding. I've seen posts on this forum (and elsewhere) where people express themselves in such a way as to sabotage their own persuasiveness and antagonize others, presumably without trying to (not trolling).
On the other hand, there are people so thin-skinned that they seem to need unseemly levels of reassurance and gentleness if confronted or corrected.
Walking the more effective path between extremes, and not letting other peoples' antagonism trigger you to react and inflame the situation, can be difficult at times. I like TS&M's posts as an example. We have some other posters who are more willing to confront and argue, but do so civilly without going overboard and maintain respectability and effectiveness.
Of course people can ask for clarifications. Sometimes a person's reasoning is as important as their position, especially when the other person may have somewhat different needs and preferences. If me & one of the tec. divers argue over the desirability of AI in a dive computer, and a newbie might like to know that I like having my start & end pressures and SAC automatically logged for download to my computer, but the tec. diver plans his dives so well, and has such a grasp on his consumption, that he knows his SAC, knows what his pressures will run (roughly) at varied points in the dive, and trusts an SPG more than a wireless transmitter for a wrist unit. Then the newbie can decide for himself whether AI is something he wants to pay for and use.
Richard.
P.S.: It's worth noting that on some topics, like the adequacy of basic OW training as widely practiced under the mainstream agencies, some on the forum believe the standards and actual practice are overly lax and pose a hazard to incoming divers. Some are legitimately worried by what, to them, seems dangerous combined with undue complacency. I can understand when some of these folks get 'testy,' even when I disagree with them on some points.