Nemrod:
Well, hope not to lead the thread to far astray but Dr. Frakenmule, you suggest the DiveRite with the BP. Is that a stainless plate? How does that work? I have several plastic backplate units. Will the DiveRite wings work with most backplates or does it require the stainless one? Why stainless over the plastic?
The biggest advantage of stainless over either plastic or aluminum is weight ... or more properly, negative buoyancy characteristic. It typically allows you to remove 5-6 lbs of ditchable weight, and puts that weight over your lungs, where it can counteract the buoyancy inherent in breathing.
For warm water, this is sometimes neither necessary nor desireable, so the type of plate you choose depends on the type of diving you can do.
As mentioned, the other option is an aluminum plate. Dive Rite makes both (I own both) ... and the aluminum plate is typically 2 lbs negative.
Many people out there make backplates ... both aluminum and stainless steel. There are differences in the type of steel used, the buoyancy characteristic of the plate, the size and shape of the plate. You should do a little homework before you purchase to assure you are getting one that suits your needs. Prices also vary ... stainless steel plates will run you from about $99 to about $189, depending on the type of plate you purchase. Aluminum plates are considerably cheaper, and typically run between $50 and $70.
Most commercially made plates follow a standard, which has mounting holes spaced 11 inches apart ... so you can use anyone's wing with anyone's plate. There are variances, but they are not common. Other things to look for ... multiple mounting holes let you move the wing up or down in relation to the plate, so you can use the wing placement to modify your trim. Some plates have cam band slots, so you can mount singles without a single-tank adapter (STA). Others do not. Personally, I prefer an STA even when the plate comes with the slots. Others do not ... personal preference.
Harnesses can either be the "standard" style, which is a single piece of webbing (purchase 12 feet or so when making one of these) ... or they can be a "custom" harness. The latter comes in many variants. Check out Deep Sea Supply's harness (they run a banner ad on this board that you can click to go there) ... or the Dive Rite TransPlate harness. There are other variants out there as well, but these two will give you some idea of the alternatives. The TransPlate harness works just like a standard BCD, with adjustment straps, quick-release buckles, and a sternum strap. Some people love 'em, others thing they're too complicated. Me ... I've used them and generally like them for certain types of diving, but have migrated to the simpler, standard harness for most of my diving. If you dive a lot, the cost of replacing the worn harness becomes a factor ($20 for the standard harness vs. $100+ for the TransPlate).
Wings ... there's a lot of info in here on wings. Basically, singles wings and doubles wings are built differently, and you should avoid wings that purport to be suitable for both. Yes, you can get away with it, but it's not ideal for either. Beyond that, I'd say look at some of the many existing discussions in the BCD forum.
Hope that helps ...
... Bob (Grateful Diver)