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My daughter's ashes

Discussion in 'Cozumel' started by mark01, Apr 19, 2014.

  1. mark01

    mark01 ScubaBoard Supporter ScubaBoard Supporter

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    My eldest daughter and I enjoyed diving until her passing this year because of breast cancer. Her favorite place to dive was Cozumel. I have an urn with some of her ashes and would like to place the urn somewhere on the reef. I am guessing this is not an ok thing to do, but does anyone know what consequences I might face if I was "apprehended" while doing this?

    TIA
    MARK
     
  2. Cave Diver

    Cave Diver Divemaster

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    I'm not sure about Cozumel, but I know there is a company, I believe in Florida that makes artificial reefs. Some sort of concrete dome with porous surface for coral etc. to attach to it. I *think* I read somewhere that they could mix ashes and such into it for a memorial. You might be able to get permission to place a small one of these somewhere easier than just placing urn full of ashes.

    I'll see if I can find the link.

    Found it: http://eternalreefs.com/

    They also offer the service in Mexico: http://eternalreefs.com/memorial-reefs/mexico-locations/

    Looks like they also offer Ash Scattering


     
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  3. Iknee

    Iknee Registered

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    I am not sure about the legality of it, but it is very easy to mix ashes into concrete and make a small memorial that will become part of the reef. PM me if you need any help.
     
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  4. mark01

    mark01 ScubaBoard Supporter ScubaBoard Supporter

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    Thank you very much!
     
  5. lionfish-eater

    lionfish-eater ScubaBoard Supporter ScubaBoard Supporter

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    Sorry for your loss, Happy for your memories shared.

    Outside the marine park might be better. People might see urn and remove, maybe a conch shell.
     
  6. MMM

    MMM Moderator Staff Member ScubaBoard Supporter

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    Sorry that your daughter was taken from you by that horrible disease. I wouldn't worry too much about any consequences if you are found putting the urn somewhere on the reef. At worst you would be told to pick it up. However, I too would worry about someone removing the urn if they stumble upon it, so I would want to drop it someplace where it will fall very, very deep into the abyss like on a wall dive. Is simply scattering her ashes during a dive an alternative? I don't know of anyone that would have a problem with that.
     
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  7. Wookie

    Wookie Curmudgeon Apprentice ScubaBoard Business Sponsor ScubaBoard Supporter

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    This is a question for the officials at the marine park. I'm sure one of the locals would be more than happy to make the inquiry for you. If the Florida Keys National Marine Sanctuary you must obtain a permit to scatter ashes. The permit is automatic, but you must still get one. It is prohibited in the Dry Tortugas National Park. Please check with the Marine Park folks before you do it. You don't want to have to pay a fine or disinter her during your bereavement.
     
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  8. kevsil

    kevsil Solo Diver

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    sometimes its better to ask for forgivness than it is for permission
     
  9. Sideways

    Sideways Contributor

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    I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter Mark. I actually have in my Will/Living Trust to do exactly what you want to do with your daughters ashes. My wife (dive buddy extraordinaire) has the same wishes. Maybe the concrete route is best after reading some of the above comments. I'm gonna have to re think it. I also agree with Kevsil 100% LOL.
     
  10. Skittl1321

    Skittl1321 Contributor

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    And sometimes forgiveness costs a lot of money!


    Sorry for your loss, Mark.
     

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