Ha! She's Ukrainian. That's not how she was raised.
Ah ... and so now we touch on some realities that are probably relevant to the topic. As a twice-divorced man I'm hardly the person you'd want to come to for marital advice. But I think I've learned a couple things along the way ... and one of them is that we all have different comfort zones in how we want to define our roles in a relationship. Some people ... men and women ... want to be controlled. It gives them some structure that makes their lives more comfortable, and those people need to be with someone who will give them permission to do the things they want to do. Others want to be the controller ... and they are best off with someone of the former category, if they want their relationship to be successful. Most want to view their relationship roles as "partners", and that means different levels of control/consent from their significant others in order to maintain harmony in the relationship. The trick isn't to define a "proper" role, and try to fit into it ... it's to choose someone whose comfort zone in the relationship roles is compatible with ours ... however much "control" that gives one spouse over the other.
I personally dislike the term "pussyfication", with respect to defining a level of "maleness" ... because it implies that the male is somehow supposed to dominate the female, and disparages the role of the woman in the relationship. And I think the days of Ricky Ricardo and Ralph Kramden are long (and happily) gone in today's society.
I've recently gotten back into a fairly serious relationship. And although I've spent the past 15 years hitting the water pretty hard (averaging 250+ dives per year), I find myself not diving so much anymore. It's not because my SO wants me to not go ... she's encouraging it, actually ... it's because she doesn't dive, and I'd really rather find things we can do together. She did have some reservations about my solo diving, but we just recently went on a trip to Vancouver Island together, where I was solo diving every day while she was on the boat. After watching my preparation, and seeing the look on my face while I was telling her afterward about the dive ... and showing her pictures of what I saw ... she's way more comfortable with it now. That's a developing trust that will define our relationship in more ways than just diving.
It may be different with you. It's probably different for most of us ... one way or the other. The important thing isn't so much how we manage our relational roles so much as that we manage them in a way that's comfortable to both partners. And so long as we do, it doesn't much matter what someone else thinks about how that role should be managed. If asking permission makes you happy, ask away. My girlfriend has figured out that I'm not much into it ... I'll listen intently, nod my head sagely, and do it my way anyhow. But I'm also not the sort that's going to put myself in a situation where the choices I make are going to make her unhappy. It's less about what I do than that it doesn't introduce conflict into the relationship. Maybe it's an age thing ... I'm staring that the back end of my life, and every day is a gift I want to make the most of. What makes me happy now isn't the same as what it did 20 or more years ago ... and I'd way rather end the day with both of us having had a happy time, whether that's doing something together or having gone our separate ways to each pursue those passions we don't share. We don't much need to "ask permission" ... we both understand where that relationship comfort zone is, and choose to stay within it. So permission's irrelevant ... neither one of us would consider putting ourselves into a situation where it would be an issue.
I don't see that as a male or female issue ... it's more about what's more important to you, something you do for fun or someone you've chosen to spend your life with ...
... Bob (Grateful Diver)