I really hate reading threads on SB and elsewhere without a final resolution, so here goes. The stainless steel DiveRite XT Lite backplate is brilliant for tropical recreational diving! It's noticeably thinner than the regular DiveRite stainless backplate, which is very obvious when using the same carriage bolts for attaching the single tank adapter and wing, and feels noticeably lighter. The bolts stick a lot further out so if anyone else goes for one, test the bolt length before diving or you might have 2 holes in your back!
I only dove a 1 mm suit, with hood, gloves and booties, in Palau, so couldn't make a one for one comparison to start with. The first dive with 4 lbs lead was fine, but I felt a touch light at the end of the dive doing a safety stop, so I grabbed 1 lb off my wife's weights and sank a lot faster on the next several dives. A few dives later, my wife wanted the 1 lb back, and 1 had no trouble descending from the surface at the end of the dive with a much emptier tank, so 4 lbs was a good weight. I chalk the difference up to even a 1 mm suit loses a little buoyancy after a few dives, and all our gear was saturated with water, so probably no air trapped in fabric or webbing.
After Palau, we spent a few days on Oahu and did a quick shore dive there. I wore a 3mm suit, hood, etc, which essentially put me in the same gear configuration as the last time in tropical water referenced in my original post. I threw on 5 lbs which worked out fine, which is where I was expecting to end up based on everything posted in this thread
The funny thing is I did a night dive at home yesterday. 7mm full suit and hooded vest since the water here is about 20 degrees colder than what I had been diving on vacation, but back to my heavier backplate and very negatively buoyant steel HP80 tank. I only used 2 lbs of lead