Well all I really know is that buoyancy is fine using two/three weights and problems arise when I put on the two extras. I need to add air to my bcd so I don't descend, but it never feels 'right', and I have to adjust the amount of air during different parts of the dive. I don't understand how I can 'do it' one minute, then as soon as the extra weight is added I can't. To clarify, I'm not all over the place with five weights, but I can't maintain the same level control and composure I have with three. How do you adapt to diving with a ton of weights?
Several thoughts occur to me:
1. Many DMT / DMCs are still refining their buoyancy / trim. They are better than the average recreational diver, but not as good as the more experienced / long time DMs and instructors. I know I was still fine tuning my buoyancy control when I was a DMC. So, I think it is fair to cut you a little slack and say your buoyancy control overall is still a 'work in progress', and adding weight presents a complication that you will have to learn to overcome;
2. Although probably an unintended outcome, you are actually being exposed, first hand, to the struggles that many OW students have when they are intentionally over-weighted by their instructor, for convenience. You will have a much greater level of empathy for over-weighted students in the future;
3. The extra weight you are carrying is actually a not insignificant amount, RELATIVELY. You describe being comfortable, for much of a dive with 1600g, and having no problems with 2400g. Your optimal weight is therefore probably ~2000g - somewhere between 2 and 3 weights as you describe it. To then add an additional 1600g is a big percentage change (80%), and I am not surprised that it presents a new learning curve to you - it might have for me at that stage in my development. So, while the absolute amount of weight may seem modest, the relative change is considerable. In part, your ability to master the situation is a really matter of practice, over time;
4. One important question to consider what the added weight is doing to your trim. If you are wearing a belt to begin with, and you put the extra weight in your BCD pockets, I am going to guess that the excess weight may be pulling your lower body (legs / feet) down, so you are now possibly swimming at closer to a 45 degree angle than horizontal. This is something else that newer divers routinely seem to experience - they use finning to keep themselves at a level depth while swimming (without realizing they are doing so - the force vectors of each fin stroke are both horizontal and vertical). When they stop finning, they sink, so they add air to their BCD. When they start finning again, they begin to ascend, and have to purge air from their BCD - it becomes an endless, and very frustrating cycle. One solution for you is to change the location of the added weight, to move the weight up, away from the lower body. We often use clip on weights and clip them to a shoulder D-ring. We also use ankle weights (two of which together provide ~1500g) which we also clip to a high point on the harness. I have not seen you in the water, so this is speculative. Ask the instructors you work with to assess your trim, while carrying the extra weights.