robint
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find a new buddy. Let him do the same.
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I agree ... you don't check someone else's air. You can (and should with newer divers especially) ask them what their air pressure is. But they should check their own pressure and communicate to you what it is (and vice-versa). It reinforces good habits.Given your friend's current attitude, he is quite simply NOT a good buddy. If you feel you need to dive with a good buddy, you should find someone else. Let him know that you would love to dive with him again if either of you adjusts your thinking to become more compatible with the other's perspective.
By the way, I don't know about the whole "checking your buddy's gauge" thing. I don't recall ever doing that myself; I'll often give the "what's your air?" sign when I dive with new divers, but I'll take their word when they signal a number of simply an "OK," because we'll have gone through turn pressure and contingencies before the dive. I've never had anyone feel insulted for being asked what their gas is, and I've never felt insulted for being asked. If someone checked my gas without asking, I'd be a bit perturbed but would understand that they're doing so for safety, which is more preferable than the alternative.
First I am new to scuba as are my 2 "buddies".
I say we should dive together as "buddies" as I am responsible for your life and you are for mine. He disagrees and says you are only responsible for yourself.
You need to buddy with someone who suits your style of diving. What your friend is doing doesn't make him a bad diver, it just makes him a bad buddy for you.
.. but having someone who shares a compatible outlook as yourself is critical.
Good dive buddies, first and foremost, share a common outlook on how the dive is to be conducted.