"Does anyone really think a diver who dives only when they go on vacation would be able get to their buddy, find his air and get to the surface without endangering himself or his buddy?"
You seem focused on the air issue.
Using another diver's octopus, even for someone who hasn't done it in awhile, is not quite as challenging as say, driving a car safely. When was the last time you rode a bike? If you got on one today, would you be able to ride it?
As Peter (and other posters) mentioned quite a few posts ago, the concept of diving in a team brings more to the equation than only additional air - which is all a redundant bottle brings, except for the added expense and inconvenience involved in buying, transporting, and maintaining it.
Aside from simply another team mate to share the experience with, the team mate can provide assistance with entanglements, entrapments inside wrecks, medical issues ranging from immobilizing leg cramps to stings to coral burns to heart attacks, and if swept away by currents a team is easier to recover than a single diver.
A team can calm things down, provide two brains, two sets of tools, and a two-person effort to overcome adversity - which can occur in many different forms.
If you want to conclude that "it's all on me", and hang a sling tank off your rig while you declare yourself secure, fine, have at it.
But to narrow the discussion down to
air alone, then declare a team mate unreliable, ergo the entire team concept is flawed, is Reductio ad Absurdum logic.
And read String's proposition carefully:
String:
"EVERYONE diving should be self sufficient and not blindly rely on a buddy. If a buddy is there and can help all well and good but you shouldn't get in the water knowing if things went wrong you'd HAVE to rely on them to get you out."
Key word is "blindly".
Anyone who has ever participated in an expedition, mountaineering, caving, whatever, or has deployed as a team member in a military unit would recognize this concept.
You select your team mates with care, not "blindly". You recognize and are aware of their capabilities and status. You rely on them to the extent that if a team mate fails, the entire team may fail, but you realize that they are mortal and the primary responsibility is your own. The team will do what it can, but in the gravest extreme their efforts may be inadequate to save you. But the fact remains that they will do what they can.
Every diver ought to be entirely self-sufficient, few would disagree. Nevertheless, diving as a team - not 'blindly' relying on team mates - offers benefits that hanging a sling tank off your rig does not.
And in terms of gas
alone, the proper approach remains to create a gas plan before each dive, and then dive your plan during the dive. The best way to deal with an emergency is to ensure that one doesn't happen in the first place.
I disagree with your proposition, but I wish you many years of safe diving - however you choose to do it.
Doc