There may be no good arguments for not using Nitrox responsibly, i.e. planning safe dives and diving the plan safely, however it does does place limits on what a diver can do safely.
As described in Lessons Learned, I was recently on a dive where another diver made an unannounced/unplanned/undiscussed descent to 130'. I was diving EAN32, which left me the chocie between aborting and diving below my MOD. Had I been diving air, I could have descended with him and persuaded him to retun to a moderate depth.
Nitrox is a trade-off. I personally take the benefits over the loss of flexibility in cases like this, however I would also accept as reasonable someone who wanted the flexibility. For example, a DM or instructor may routinely have to chase students back up to the planned depth.
32% Nitrox at 132 feet is 1.6 PPO2.
For how long would you have been at 130 feet? 2 minutes? 10 minutes? 30 minutes?
Exceeding the "mod" for a short period of time will not kill you. You need to factor in the TIME and EXPOSURE LEVEL.
In your case, I don't see why you wouldn't go get your "buddy" and tell them to come shallower, as the depth and PO2 made you feel uncomfortable.
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According to the widely accepted CNS Clock table... What is the maximum single dive exposure time at 1.6 PPO2? What % per minute do you rack up while at 1.6 PPO2? If you've been diving at 1.0 PPO2 for 30 minutes... for how long could you stay at a PPO2 of 1.6 while remaining within the CNS Toxicity limits of the table?
People who can't answer these questions... shouldn't be diving nitrox.