Here's my uneducated rambling thoughts.
I would only fault someone for calling a dive if it was a chronic problem, or a continuous string of new problems, at which point they would be replaced as a buddy and not berated for what is ultimately a safe and necessary behavior.
Calling a dive is for the most part a preventable failure of preparation either technically, mentally or physically. I have the expectation that people have identified their weak points during training or practice dives and either corrected them, or applied duct tape such as a larger tank than everyone else to make up for consistent abnormal high air consumption.
Sometimes it can't be prevented, like a sudden change in water conditions or a fluke technical failure on an otherwise well maintained item, most times however it is something where being in better physical condition with properly inspected high quality gear and the proper training and mindset would prevent the need to thumb it.
On the topic of people misunderstanding your gauge, the pressure at which the dive is called, based mostly on what it would take to get back to the entry point, is always to be agreed on before the dive as part of even a half A'd "lets just go exploring" plan. At that point it would be impossible for it to go unnoticed since you would have to agree to a number that would be different than everyone else.
General buddy gear familiarization is also a required pre dive check. The only time an instructor or DM should have to question air remaining is during open water training when people are not certified and can't be fully trusted to remember to check it yet, and in theory everyone is diving the same rental tank size for those. It's up to you and your buddy to manage air and inform someone if there is an issue.
EDIT: On the topic of OP's issue, because he was leading the group is was probably best if all thumbed it at the same time, but in reality you dive in assigned buddy pairs for a reason and any others are not required so on a normal dive only you and your buddy would bail and the rest would carry on. The herd mentality is for people that never passed open water training properly.