OK, I *think* I understand what you are saying. You have a 14mm farmer John setup, and all your weight is in on the BC/Tank, 20lbs on the BC, plus the tank weight (5~6lbs full/maybe 1~2 empty). Your bladder is likely in the 30lbs range, and when you remove the BC with all the weight on the BC, and steel tank, it sinks even when fully inflated.
IMO there is NOTHING you can do about that other than to remove some weight from the BC -OR- don't remove your BC.
So those are your choices, outside of purchasing a larger bladder.
If it were me, I'd transfer some weight from the BC to the diver (YOU!) but I have no clue how your weight is setup, and if it's a large bar or something, that may be easier said than done. The only option is a weight belt, or system like the DUI weight and trim.
You could get rid of all that neoprene, and than adjust your weight accordingly. 14mm (7mm+7mm) Farmer Johns work fine, but I feel like I'm in a cast with that much neoprene, and you need enough weight to sink a battleship to go down. They require more than my Drysuit to sink, and that is a LOT of lead! Worst of all, at the end of the day.. .you are wet!
There are those that will tell you that diving steels without redundant buoyancy devices is the Devil's work!
I'm not in that camp, I think being able to swim the rig up to the surface is more important that ditch weight, or redundant bladders, so can you?
A drysuit is a great investment, and redundant buoyancy is smart. I picked up a used NexGen many years back for around $350, and have well over 150 dives on it. So drysuits don't have to be horribly expensive, and that suit sells around $600~650 NEW, and has proven VERY durable from my experience.