Swanky is Harbour Village as mentioned. It's really the nicest resort on Bonaire - small villas/rooms lead directly to the beach. Priced accordingly. By far the nicest beach on Bonaire. And the marina there so there's usually something going on. They have their own dedicated dive operator also just for their guests use.
There's no pool at Den Laman. There's also not much of a beach at Den Laman if that's of interest. The area left of the dock is shared with Sand Dollar Condos as that's all they've got to use as well.
I agree with the previous two posters about Buddy Dive -
slightly swanky is not a word I'd use to describe it - or Habitat. They're both old, well-used, well maintained dive resorts. On the flipside Buddy's Bar is probably one of the best places to meet divers now that City Cafe closed. The other probably being Karel's downtown. Of course on Bonaire everyone not a local is a diver - or with one.
The other Buddy affiliated properties - Caribbbean Club to the north or Belmar to the south are nicer than Buddy's And I believe cost more. Both are more condos/villas than rooms.
Caribbean Club is slightly out of town north and is hilltop - about a block walk to the water. There's a pool bar there but most food would be at least a short drive back to the dive resort area near Buddy's etc.
Belmar has a nice pool. Kind of a tight property (parking etc.) if they're full. Food is a 5min. drive to town from there. The nearest bar is probably Coconut Crash at the Plaza also. The resort fronts the ironshore so it's really oceanfront, just about 20' above the water. There's steps down to the dive docks - one of which Buddy's brings a boat down to as needed. We stay there, I liked it but it's quiet.
The Divi might be another option. It's just south of town so you can walk to restaurants. They're just rooms though and not even slightly swanky - except the view is right off the ironshore out to sea. They do have a pool and a small beach (sometimes) I believe it gets washed out periodically during storms and is replaced. The only casino is at the Divi also. It can be done as a full-AI if you buy the optional meal plan.
The Plaza farther south of town has a pool, a nice beach, several bars/restaurants on-site. It's also a larger resort than any of the others except maybe Buddy's. Coconut Crash is beach front, has volleyball and they do a weekly BBQ worth going to even if you don't stay there. I think it's Tuesday night. Plaza now offers the only true AI program on Bonaire - most of the others bundle room/truck/diving and sometimes breakfast.
Just south of there Waterlands Village is a swankier
villa complex. It's lagoon-front - not oceanfront though. Probably about the same level of "swank" as Bamboo Bali. No restaurant there. When they say "beachfront" - that's kind of a stretch. They mean there's some sand along the lagoon in some areas. You wouldn't catch me swimming in it.
The southern resorts get you closer to Lac Bay and Atlantis where most of the wind/kite surfing is done. Trade off is there's really no food options south of the airport. Or bars.