Dan,
It is not that complicated. First off, read between the BS.
For gear you will need (to be "DIR"):
1.Backplate,wing, and one piece harness - the web site on how to rig it is at:
http://www.fifthd.com/gear/harness.html
2. canister light - Used because it can become ditchable weight and easier to use than a heavy hand held.
3. Exposure Suit - Wet or Dry. If diving Wet, no Steel tanks. You need to be able to swim your rig up (ditch all weight) in case of wing failuar
4. Regs - Look at Apex, Oceanic, Scuba Pro. I just got some Apex Tx-50s (Sold my Odins) and they breath great, bulletproof
5. Buddy mentaility - When you dive, you are diving as a team and always watch the other guy
6. Standard Gases - Use correct gas mix for depth
7. Stages - No Steel stages. Both stages worn on left side (if carrying two stages)
8. Fins - XL Jets work great. Get a pair of spring straps from Extreme Exposure or make your own (http://www.cisatlantic.com/trimix/fins/sprstrps.htm)
Go to the web sites and read, check the techdiver mailing list archives and if you have any questions ask.
Eric