Jersey
Contributor
Sounds like you did exctly what I would have. After finding your potential buddy lacked some recent experience, you both agreed it would be prudent to seek other buddies. You were buddied with someone who had credentials. Great. Except he broke the rules - you specifically told him no wreck penetrations & he agreed to be there for situations - a little hard to do if he was in the wreck!
The only thing I would suggest is learning to be confrontational in a non-confrontational manner. How about - "I thought we had a plan & I explained that based on my lack of experience here, I would prefer not to penetrate the wreck, but then I looked & away you went leaving me very much alone & I was not very happy about that & will not dive with you again." You could take him aside privately to discuss. I used to have problems confronting people. Got over that!!
But - great job, keep diving! Sounds like it was a tough day - first a green diver, then a bad buddy...
Jersey
The only thing I would suggest is learning to be confrontational in a non-confrontational manner. How about - "I thought we had a plan & I explained that based on my lack of experience here, I would prefer not to penetrate the wreck, but then I looked & away you went leaving me very much alone & I was not very happy about that & will not dive with you again." You could take him aside privately to discuss. I used to have problems confronting people. Got over that!!
But - great job, keep diving! Sounds like it was a tough day - first a green diver, then a bad buddy...
Jersey