I'm almost 60 and have done one week in Bonaire. I can't walk safely to jump off point with all the heavy gear on because of an old neck injury. In Bonaire, some captains were fine with helping (letting me sit on boat edge and bringing me my gear, and also letting me take off my gear in the water and hand it to them before climbing the ladder), and others were resentful. I don't really understand the scuba culture and could use guidance on how to approach this. Am I asking too much? About to do a colder dive in Catalina and it will be even harder with more lead on. Thank you for your insights.
I dove Catalina three weeks ago from a boat, and generally they have a small platform that is about 1-2 feet in the water below the ladder... you can basically swim up to it, and kneel there, and they will help remove your fins and anything else you need to pass up the ladder. Good operators will assist their divers whether it's the aged like yourself, or the portly like me...
One thing I will say is that if you're slow, then hang to the trail line and let other go up first, then get on last, or be the first one back...
I will say this about Catalina.. they try to get their three dives in and then back to San Pedro by 5pm... so they do push people to get in and out of the water on time... just make sure the Captain and DM know your needs and they should assist.