Human beings were never intended to become that large. There was once a bipedal primate about that size called
Gigantopithecus but little Tibeten men with funny looking tattoos hunted them all down because they were afraid of having their sculls used as Gigantor shot-glasses or being taken hostage to cater to the Gigantopithecan women like a little army of Umpa Lumpa sized tattooed lap-dogs.
I suppose we should be optimistic about the possibility that one got away but cautious of anything he says because, frankly, I don't want to become an Umpa Lumpa.
... and now we know that Gigantopithecus can scuba dive too.... we must be careful out there, people!
Bebbesen, In all seriousness, it sounds like your problem is not a problem with the amount of weight you need to carry or something about your body that makes you more floaty than other people. I'm pretty floaty these days too and I keep telling my wife it's because i have big lungs but I'm not sure she's convinced... The point is, the amount of weight you need is the amount of weight you need.... You can distribute it around your kit so it doesn't all hang in places that make your back hurt but that's step 2.
I would say your air consumption is likely linked to some extent to your enormousness but I'd venture a guess given what you wrote that you're still not completely at ease either, which in the long run will turn out the be the main factor here. However, like the others said, you're such a big guy that you can handle larger tank(s) in order to compensate so just do it. There's no shame in that. If you do go for a larger tank then try a 104cf steel tank and you'll be able to drop some weight off of your weightbelt too. You might become more stable in the water as a result as well.
for the rest, your main problem sounds skills related to me. I would think that you need some more in-water time to train buoyancy control and how to make clean ascents. It's hard to know what to advise you to do over the internet. Ordinarily I would want to see someone in the water who was reporting these problems but part of the solution is going to be to simply get out and get some more dives in. One thing you might be able to do to help yourself at this point would be to take a PPB specialty, where you can get more attention to buoyancy control under supervision. Beware, though that some instructors run really *good* PPB specialties and others run really mediocre ones at best. Be picky and get an instructor whose ex- students recommend him.
Good Luck
R..