I think it is more like,
I can't get anyone to touch it so I will make them look at it.
Actually, you said this like a joke but I think it might be closer to the truth than you think....
From a man's perspective it's crystal clear that women control all intimacy early on in a relationship. If you're not confident (or clueless--as in my case
) enough to wait for the woman to give off some kind of signal before responding (which automatically puts you in the following roll) then anything you do will probably be seen as aggressive or intimidating.
Add to that the fact that (perhaps) the majority of men for one reason or another are unable to deal with the emotions of infatuation and love (or even lust...?) without confusing intimacy with sex and the weirdness starts to make some kind of sense...
I would submit that guys who flash to women (the ones who aren't so far gone that what they do is just criminal) are probably highly insecure to the point of mortal desperation and have absolutely no idea (a) if women like them or (b) how to communicate to women that they're open for intimacy or that they're starting to feel like they're in love.
Just a thought, but that falls right into the pattern of what you said with "I can't get anyone to touch it so I will make them look at it"
I think Mr. Romeo from the first post is a good example of what I'm saying. I would say there was a good chance he was starting to fall in love with crd_kats (Carmen?) and just didn't have the emotional or interpersonal skills to deal with that feeling. In fact, he probably would have gotten a lot further with kats if he had just looked into her eyes and said "kats, I have to tell you something....I'm starting to fall for you"
This is not to qualify or make excuses for this behaviour but I think from a man's perspective, knowing how we're socialized to be emotionally stunted boobs, I think I can sort of understand how it happens.
The sad part is that the rejection only works as feedback to further deepen the self-esteem crisis and feeling of desperation and probably does nothing at all to discourage them from doing it again....
R..