I (accidentally) abandoned my teenage son during a night dive in the red sea... completely lost him...
We both were in our first year of diving, maybe somehere around dive # 60 or so and were really comfortable and probably thought of ourselves as "great divers" and started to get negligent on the very basics... While it was a night dive with DM, my son and I explored on our own as a buddy pair. I got a bit carried away with an octopus, trying really hard to get a picture.... And played with getting a better pone by going lights off and switching on just prior to taking the pic. Did not work really
And when I came to my senses no one else was there. All good I could see where the lights were quite a ways away and my son was the only one with yellow gins, I'll find him, so I calmly swam over there...
And I found the yellow fins, swimmi g at a good clip away from the boat and we got close to turning pressure. Holy Cr.. I thought I better catch him. But I also thought lets surprise him so I went lights out...
Well, it wasn't him.
It was a whole different group.
Idiot me, at least 2x over.
To my surprise (when we started the dive we were the only boat and it did not occur to me that another might arrive after dark...)
Now I was still calm but noticeably less so. THUMP THUMP THUMP heart in throat... Worst dad and worst diver in the world lost son at night in the read sea.... HOW IN THE WORLD can anyone loose their budfy during a night dive... That's pretty hard to do...
OK, calm down, swim back (a few hundred yards by then), find lights (glad I took a heading...)...
When I got back to roughly where I lost him, I saw the faint glow of lights behind the tall coral ridge we were on, from the other side. While I was Octopus crazy, the group went over and back down and another group was passing on "my side".
So anyway, I found him, just in time to make our way to the boat.
I already knew I make a bad buddy camera in hand, I had no idea that bad. Worse, apparemtly that bad that my son wasn't much phased by it... Big "meia culpa and we / I got to do better than this talk" afterwards...
Definitely identified a bad habit to drop while buddied up...
Definitely got a few things to think about in terms of complacency...
Yeah and that octopus (my first) was really mesmerizingly cool, I definitely was an idiot squared...