One in mind was not that knew to SM. He had already taken his diving to full cave with SM and did an expedition to the caves in Mexico...other that that I agree with what you said.
Gotta bear in mind the impact of different environments/gear etc.
I've done all my SM diving here in the Philippines. I couldn't go back to the UK and don dry-gloves and expect the same ease of use immediately... there'd be some re-tuning necessary.... and probably some re-configuration (larger bolt-snaps etc).
Cave diving in Mexico isn't boat diving in rough, cold water. It'd be natural to expect some (considerable?) difficulty and 'fluster-factor' initially when making the change in any given configuration.
I just don't see SM very nessary on boat dives UNLESS you are planning wreck / cave diving.
I don't think there is any 'necessity' for it... just a preference.
To be honest, sidemount isn't even a 'necessity' for most overhead environment divers - unless they form part of the relatively small sub-demographic who choose to operate within very confined environments.
I love sidemount. My preference is based upon my individual circumstances. Beyond those, I cannot judge others. I dive in tropical water, wearing the thinnest gloves and minimal exposure protection. I dive AL80 or AL100s, with AL40 or AL60 stages. The oceans are generally calm. The dive boats are small and have easy access and hard-working, fit crews who don't mind hauling tanks in/out of the water.
Some other preference factors, that I have:
I am also, invariably, responsible for other divers. Many of the dives are deep (25-40m), even if not into overhead. Copious supply of donate-able gas is a prime consideration - especially given variable and unpredictable diver/customer skill, awareness and air consumption.
Many of my dives are deep and long... borderline NDL dives, if not in actual deco. Sidemount provides for those gas needs, without the cost and logistics factor of having to arrange double tanks in a less developed country. The temptation to compromise and do some of those dives in singles has ceased to exist. Any LDS can supply the tanks I need. Any boat can support my dives (doubles might capsize some of the smaller boats I've dived from! LOL).
It's common practice here for the boat crews to load cylinders on the boats. That means I just have to set-up my sidemount tanks in the shop and hand them over for loading. I wander out to the boat in my wetsuit; wearing my sidemount BCD only... fins clipped off through the bungees, mask on forehead (LOL). Sit on the boat for a short while enjoying a cool drink... then once anchored, hop into the water and get my tanks handed down to me. It's truly joyful... and a saving grace for someone whose body was subjected to the rigors of decades of rugby, martial arts and military service
For those reasons, I choose to dive sidemount on most occasions... and I can't help but recommend it for anyone in similar circumstances.