robh:
I have kids.
I fly them first class (sometimes) and take them to first class resorts. I work hard to earn the perks and vacations I get to enjoy. It's too bad some parents have trouble with their kids but I refuse to let it stop me from enjoying my time with my family.
First the disclaimers....I don't have kids myself....also, I use "you" in the generic sense, not in the "robh personally" sense, ok?
You know, if you behave and your kids behave, then I'll happily invite you to eat at my table, and I'll enjoy sitting next to you on any flight -- regardless of class.
If you behave and your kids don't, then you're welcome (although a bad parent) but your kids arent. If your kids behave, but you don't, then your kids are welcome, but I'll have security drag you out by your balls (and you're still a bad parent).
I in general assume that, until proven otherwise, both you and your kids are well behaving. There....
Kids are kids and I have slightly more patience with them than with adults. But it doesn't come down to "kids or no kids", it comes down to behavior. And I've seen adults behave worse than any kid ever could.
Good behavior is not reserved for adults -- as is bas behavior not reserved to kids.