The fact that you are asking these questions is a good thing. Being nervous is normal.
Suggestion: Dive side by side or be the diver in front. You should do the navigation (the only way to learn, is to do. Naturally your dive buddies, will be doing navigation too, to make sure you don't get lost).
Quick review of the Rules of SCUBA that IMHO should be taught in every course:
1. NEVER ever under any circumstances or any reason hold your breath on SCUBA
2. No TRUST ME dives. A trust me dive is where you are "trusting" someone else (excluding of course a teaching situation with a qualified instructor) to accomplish a part of the dive this includes but not limited to:
a. Navigation you should always know where the exit/boat is in relation to yourself.
b. Diving a situation you are not trained for such as wreck or cave diving.
c. Conditions - do not dive in conditions you are not comfortable with or let someone else talk you into it.
d. Is it safe to dive here or today? you and you alone decide that for yourself. If you dive buddy says "what do you think?" You should say, "let's go to breakfast and not dive today" because that question tells you that they don't feel comfortable but don't want to be the one to cancel the dive. Listen to your inner voice and common sense. If you don't feel comfortable diving, don't. The dive you don't make will not hurt you. The dive you do make when your inner voice (common sense) was saying "umm, I don't know about this" may.
A trust me dive is a great way to get hurt or killed. What happens if the diver you were relying on to navigate, or go through the wreck because they are trained and you are not or what ever situation you are relying on them to get you through, gets separated from you or something happens to them? Then what? Your Scr#wed.
See Don't Worry -
It'll be OK (also published in Divers Alert Magazine) for more on Trust Me Dives
All of your other questions were taught in your SCUBA class including I hope navigation.
Who is responsible for any and all dive decisions? You and you alone. Not the DM, not the dive leader, not the dive buddy, just you. Use your training, and your head and your common sense. Don't panic (panic kills. Stop, breathe, think, act.).
Who decides who the leader is - You and your dive buddy do. You discuss it and agree on it.
Who decides the dive plan - again you and your buddy. The plan is based on the capabilities (training, skills, air consumption, physical conditioning etc) of the least capable of the buddy team.
Turn around pressure - mutual agreement and is part of the dive plan.
Who decides when to surface - you do based on which occurs first: Dive plan, Remaining Air, No Decompression Limit.
You are nervous and that is normal when making the first dives after certification. You need to rely on the skills taught you and to trust yourself. Dive only in a team of two diver or three at the most. Never a larger group. A larger group should divide into twos and threes. The groups may agree on a common dive plan and plan to stay together, but buddy teams cannot exceed two or three. If you do you get "where is Joe?" "I don't know I thought you were watching him!" "Me? I though you were watching him. Oh, cr#p!".
Try to find a dive buddy on the boat you are comfortable with. Talk to the other divers and get a feel for them. Avoid the diver who is:
1. Bragging about how deep they have been or other daring do. Diving with fools is never a good idea.
2. Appears nervous.
3. Has all brand new equipment and is not real sure how it all works. Two new divers is probably not your best plan.
4. Agrees that if you signal that you are surfacing, they will surface with you. NEVER dive with a dive buddy who will wave bye to you under water. Your dive buddy should come with you to the surface and stay with you until you are back on dry land or the boat or the DM on they boat has clearly communicated that they have you. Most dive injuries occur during the ascent to the surface. Diver death reports are full of "the last time I saw Joe was at 40 feet and he was OK and heading for the surface."
5. Dive buddy is within arms reach at all times. Same ocean dive buddies are of little to no value to you in an emergency (out of air for example). Just ask yourself, "If I run out of air now, how far away do I want air to be?" The air on your buddies back should always be closer than the surface.
6. You want a buddy who is experienced, comfortable, not a risk taker and not a same ocean dive buddy.
A good dive buddy cares only about the following:
1. Did we all come back with no injuries?
2. Did we dive safely?
3. Did we all have fun?
How long or how deep we dove should not be a consideration. I have had many a dive that lasted 15 to 20 minutes because my dive buddy (a newer diver) had use 2,300 PSI while I used 800 PSI. But that is fine with me. We dove safely and had fun and were on dry land with 500+PSI.
Last of all have fun and check back in and tell us how it went.