I don't know anything about the components you're talking about using, so no comment there. Just my story about how I put together my Pony:
When I first started diving locally in the Northeast, I realized that with all the "buddies" out there I'd be smart to have a Pony. My LDS sold me a 13 cu and said it would be fine.
I'd say that on the dive boats I frequent, 19cu seems to be the most common. This is for open water dives, no caves or wreck penetration, average depth 80-100 ft. If I ever need a new Pony, I'd go for the 19. Trim and weighting is a PIA, but you'll get it worked out. It's not like a pony hanging on your tank is going to make you sink or float uncontrollably.
I have a Sherwood Brut as my regulator. Not because I like it, just because I had it when I added my pony. The Brut's not their top of the line reg but it's fine, even if it's black instead of yellow. I wouldn't buy it again because the first stage is designed to bleed continuously, which means I'm constantly loosing air in my pony. Crazy design, plus I constantly have other divers telling me "your pony has a leak." Sherwood says it's supposed to do that.
My LDS doesn't charge me to top it off, plus I have a whip to top it off myself if I'm on a boat.
I use the pony at least once a month. Not because I run out of air, but because I want practice. It's a good idea to build up your muscle memory so you take action without thinking about it. When the day comes that I need it, I want to be experienced with finding it hanging around my neck and shoving it in my mouth. Not a big deal, you might think, but who knows how much of a panic you'll be in when you're 130 feet down and you don't get air from your main regulator.
Whatever equipment you buy, make sure you use it regularly, test breathe it before each dive, and maintain it just like it was your main regulator. Some people forget to get that backup reg serviced, which is a bad mistake because the day you really NEED it, you want to make sure it's in good shape.