I agree with you entirely but I like to plan for all eventualities. Some I'll learn organically but if I can fast forward some of the learning with other's experience on SB I'm very happy with that. I've had a couple of occasions where buddy separation was inevitable and wouldn't you know kit failed at the same time so I never say never.
J
I don't know how you and your buddies set things up for your teams, but here is how we do it.
If we are separated and out of contact in open water for a minute or more, we slowly ascend to the surface (including a safety stop if we have been deep enough to warrant one), meet up on the surface and then we continue with a profile that will be safe from where we are at in the dive.
For us, this pretty much means that we should be no worse off than ascending starting no later than a minute and 30 seconds from the time we lost our buddy, since we are strict about our rule about buddy eye contact every 30 seconds. That is a firm rule unless I am shooting video, and then we have other procedures in place (the buddy stays close enough to grab me at any time because I can't make eye contact).
To me, buddy separation means, at worst, I start going up within a minute and thirty seconds. Also, we make it a point to not violate rock bottom pressure, which means our buddy always has enough air to get both of us safely to the surface. If an o-ring blows, my tank isn't empty and I will have time to ascend on what is left of the tank (or very close to it).
I don't dive deep where I am going to get separated from my buddy, and if I do get separated deep I go up. Firm rule.
I am a lot more conservative than many people, but really I don't care. They can do what they want to do, I plan on walking away from the dive with my buddy when it is over. IMHO you can have lots of fun and still practice safe air management and buddy skills.
Obviously, solo divers have their backup air systems so they just simply switch over and turn off the blown tank and follow their plans for emergencies.
To me, if you have an o-ring blow when you are short of air, are at depth and are out of contact with your buddy then you have been breaking several safety rules... and a CESA is a reward for breaking rules. But that's me.