So, I read the boards here and elsewhere. Looked at various configurations and brands. I finally decided to go with a DR package with the travel wing and XT lite. Can't wait to get it to try it out. Now I am going to start looking for some tech classes (GUE or TDI) around Denver to get more comfortable. Nobody I dive with uses BP/W and I could branch outside PADI for other skills.
Since this was originally about talking OUT of BPW, I will give my very amateur impressions
1) so many options. A jacket BC is just easy to purchase. BP, Wing, and Harness seem easy, but wing lift, SS/AL or other BP, BP with/out STA, hog harness or other, etc. it is daunting. Packages like I did through DGX are somewhat easier, but it still requires homework.
2) Local support. My FLDS does not have anyone with BP/W experience to learn from or get advice. There are two shops with tech but without someone I know/trust it is tough.
3) safety. My daughter is 19yo at PADI rescue and we are planning to practice, but I travel often without her. If there was an issue is a buddy on some random dive boat going to be comfortable with my setup. This is the biggest consideration I went through. DM levels, no problem, but I often have novices as buddies. My last buddy was from Venezuela and did not speak a lot of English. We were fine with hand signals, but not sure about walking through a harness. Maybe unreasonable but still a consideration.
4) travel crews. I read about boat crews pinching wings and causing damage. I like to manage all on my own, but some foreign crews really work for their earnings and will do more than you desire. An issue? Not sure yet.
Given all of that, I went with a DR package. I can upgrade wing or plate and likely will as I progress. But the above issues are real items that need to be considered for those of us divers that are not 50+\yr divers. Jackets are easy for casual divers. I am hoping my choice will make me a better diver.