So, you guys tell me if I have a right to be seriously pissed...
My father and I have been planning this trip to Bonaire, and we finally have all of the aspects as far as flights and hotel in place and paid for, which is great, but heres my problem.
We are getting certified at our only local dive shop in late July. I initially was hoping to get certified much sooner, but all the other days were completely full. So in reality, we will have less than a month from the date we get certified (all our dives will be done in lakes) to the time when we actually arrive in Bonaire, do our orientation dive, and are diving from the shore in completely unfamiliar waters. So I'm thinking, "Hey, since our actual time in the water prior to the trip will be so limited (there will be no chance to make a dive between the end of our cert. and the trip, schedules are packed), why not try to at least get out to the lake and make some good free dives to just get used to using the fins properly, and overall, just being underwater?" But when I go to my father to discuss it with him, he completely stonewalls me, basically trying to completely push everything away and even going so far as to say that diving in the lake (which is actually kind of warm) would be useless since where we are diving will the water will be 80+ F.
I find that ridiculous. How can getting a few extra hours a week in the water actually hurt? Of anything, I tried to point out how if we did go for 3 hours, just once a week, it could seriously make the difference between us shore diving completely alone being a very dangerous activity, or a relatively safe and enjoyable one; not to mention it would be a huge plus if we were completely comfortable going to relative depths of 30 ft or so without scuba gear, and just being overall completely confident and comfortable in the water (we both could make that dive pretty easily, thats what frustrating).
My problem is this. It is not just his safety which can be affected by not being comfortable in deeper water, but also my own considering he will be my only lifeline when we are in the water around Bonaire. I dont want to rely on someone who seems to have a completely nonexistent sense of self-reliance, and trusts so much that the certification course will magically make us completely ready for anything that can happen in open water. But worse yet, we live in a relatively small town, where finding someone to go free diving with at the lake will be virtually impossible, so by being so unwilling, he is screwing over himself and me since I will not go by myself (no desire to drown from a blackout).
I even offered to ask my work for one day off a week, specifically so I could make time for these dives. Which considering im only 18, and I'm trying to make enough money to pay my way through UC Davis, represents a significant cut in my earnings since I work about 30-35 hours a week, and I need to make another $1500 before September...
Thanks for letting me vent...
Any suggestions?
Austin
P.S: I do value my fathers time, as does he. But literally ever since the beginning of the planning process (it was meant to be a graduation gift) I have done everything from arranging flights, to booking our accommodations, to getting the certification going. I've even gotten to the point a few times where I was just going to ask if I could go by myself and maybe hook up with someone on the island (I enjoy solitude, thats why scuba has so much appeal), but I know he wants to go and have it be a father son activity.