Another lesson you learned was not to post it on Scubaboard, because you'll just find out from everybody who wasn't there how everything was actually all your fault.
Shasta_man,
With all due respect, but you're looking at this from the wrong perspective. All the people that have responded to Nic's post are either very experienced professionals or very experienced divers. The feedback that was given, was merely pointing out that a diver has a lot of responsibility, something Nic was aware of but only to a degree and that lessons can be learned as well from this case, as Nic acknowledges and it has been pointed out that there are always two sides to a story.
Especially Devon Divers initial post was very extensive and one of the better posts I've read recently here, giving a lot of good feedback and the posts also shows he thought about the case at hand, some well thought out comments in that post indeed. Considering that we all hang out here in our free time and don't get paid to be here, how long do you think it took Devon Diver to compose that post, including edits?
Last but not least, we see a lot of 'seagulls' here as well, people that sig up, post one post; a big complain about something (their egg has been dropped now) and we never hear of them again. Nic has come back and given feedback to his initial post, which I commend him for. By doing so and the way he constructs his feedback, he gives at least me the impression that he's not out on a vengeance trip but was and still is seriously concerned about what happened and I think that the way this thread is developing so far, he's also learning from the experience. I also commend him for continuing to dive and that he is now continuing his and his partners education, making him better and more experienced divers at the end of the day.
In my humble opinion, this thread has clearly given positive feedback and constructive criticism to Nic and in no way, I feel or think that all was blamed on Nic 'after all', as you stated.
I do hope you keep coming back here Nic and contribute on a regular base, hopefully also about positive experiences in the near) future.
Shasta_man, I hope that you also learned something from this thread.