A wing with 30 lbs. of lift is
more than enough for your configuration: HP100/LP95 + SS BP + 3mm wetsuit. A wing with 20 lbs. of lift would probably be sufficient.
Get a HP100 or LP95 or AL80. There isn't a bad choice among them really. Depending on the model of LP95, it will be a few pounds heavier topside than the HP100. Check
this online chart to see to compare tank buoyancy specs. Once in the water, the buoyancy characteristics are quite similar. It's nice having a little extra gas for certain dive sites, though, so that might lead you away from the AL80.
If you insist on having some ditchable weight, you may want to go for the Kydex (Deep Sea Supply only) or AL BP. You should know, however, that an AL BP is only about 4 lbs. lighter than a SS BP. That being said, many people dive a SS BP + no additional lead with thin exposure protection (warm water) and are very happy with it.
When diving AL80 tanks, my warm water setup is an AL BP + 4 lbs. on tank cambands + 3 mm wetsuit. I use my 30 lb. lift wing because I'm a cold water diver who's too cheap to buy a smaller wing. It works just fine. I could have made the 4 lbs. ditchable, but if I put the 4 lbs. on my hips it makes me annoyingly foot heavy (poor trim = bad). Essentially, I have no ditchable weight, and I'm OK with that. Bringing my SS BP on vacation would work, but I'd rather save that 4 lbs. in my luggage for souvenirs.
LP95s and HP100s trim out nicely for me. Since you're 5'9", I suspect they'd work for you, too. I have one Worthington X7-HP100 and one PST HP100. They're both great. I hear Florida cave divers like to get LP tanks and overfill them (past the rated service pressure) for more capacity. If cave diving is in your future, you might want to consider that.
rstofer gives good advice about AL80s. I have a couple of those, and they work just fine.
Once you
really get into diving, you'll start collecting tanks like pairs of shoes. It's a convenience thing. The more tanks you have, the fewer trips you have to make to the dive shop to get fills. Pretty soon you'll be trying to figure out where to store all of them.
Have fun with your gear purchases...