Keep in mind that another reason for differences might be slightly different profiles. Your buddy goes a little deeper and drifts into deco and you don't.
That said, if this is all NDL diving, then there is only one "standard" recommendation and that's 3 minutes at 15', with most computers calling it "good" if you are between 10 and 20'. I haven't tried every computer out there, but the two I dive regularly and the ones I've used renting gear on vacations all have a 3 minute safety stop built in.
Now I'm curious: Are there computers out there that recommend a different shallow safety stop? (I'm ignoring the deep stop question folks ask earler; on my computers it's an option that can be turned off.)