I agree in general, but I believe the range of variability over which you can make adjustments to take into account experience, vis, etc., and still function as a buddy is smaller than you do. I base my understanding on the skills we were taught, and at the top of that list is how to handle an OOA situation. I think we're on the same page there. An OOA diver in a pair who are strictly relying on the buddy system needs to be able to obtain air from his buddy before he resorts to something else. That means you need to know each other's location well enough that you can reach them in time. So, while I agree there is a range in terms of both distance and precision (of knowing their location), I believe it's a smaller range than you suggest.
I don't know where you got the "3 minutes" and "30 feet" estimates, but I find it hard to believe those numbers hold true in many real-world scenarios. Sure, if someone intentionally holds his breath, he can go for quite a while. But what if he's happily swimming along, thinking about something other than his breathing, exhales, goes to take the next breath, and gets nothing--stuck with empty-ish lungs? Can he really be expected to swim 3 minutes or 30 feet? Even if he manages to do that, will he be calm enough to not jeopardize the air-sharing procedure when the two buddies meet? I have experienced having an OOA buddy (and being OOA myself) more than once--all during training--and I don't think those numbers are realistic. A very experienced diver might be able to remain cool, even with empty lungs, for a few seconds longer than an average diver, but I believe the range of variability is just a matter of seconds. I guess we disagree. A first on SB.
Just to explain where I made up the numbers from:
I learned the 'rule of threes' when I was younger. The average person can go three minutes without air, 3 days without food, and 3 weeks without water. I don't doubt that panic will impact how long someone 'thinks' they can go without air, but we can go a lot longer than the natural reflex to breath suggests. As for the 30 ft, I just made it up as I believe that's pretty close to the length that PADI suggests you do the CESA for in an OW class (might be a bit more or a bit less, but 30 ft is pretty close I'm sure. Seems if they think you can practice being without air for 30 ft, an OOA diver should be able to go that far.
Nothing wrong with disagree about things on the internet. I have my opinions, but I don't claim them to be truths or valid for everyone.