We've been there maybe 30 times, and mostly for 2 weeks at a time.
Sometimes management ignores me, sometimes I yack with them a lot, sometimes they will even meet me for a dive.
Having such familiarity with the place, I see a bit more into their daily operations,
I see past the curtain. Sometimes these managers who we think have a life in paradise are pulling out their hair in chunks. Yet~ we rarely see why they are so pre-occupied.
In any social situation, and indeed that is what we are talking about here, any newbie that walks into the room is likely to be a bit shy/defensive/unsure. We see this issue at SCUBA Clubs all the time. Just like CCV, the Clubs are advised to have a front man or greeter to make the new kid understand that they are welcomed and have at least one person they know. After that, in most cases, it is up to all of us to reach out and meet new friends, make acquaintances with staff... or just decide that they might like a quieter, more solo type vacation.
There are 2 person tables, 4 person, 8, and 12+ tables. Don't be afraid to join a large group if there's room. You might meet a friendly mermaid. As a regular denizen,
Herself and I usually sit at a 4 or 8 and see who joins us. We have met some lifelong dive buddies that way.
We have seen attempts to overcome this natural barrier in many permutations- one of the best is the Tupperware party model. They had it down to a science, breaking down natural reticence to let go and expose oneself to others. Many resorts open the week with the least common denominator, an alcohol related party- the Rum Swoozie model. Club Dread has likely the best social model, combining alcohol with silly games- it gets people mixing, but then again, that is what they promise, right?
At real live dive resorts, you don't generally see the alcohol binge welcome party being used. CCV goes out of their way to avoid any over-consumption of alcohol~ no 50 cent beers, etc.... except on Friday night with free rum punch~ when there are any number of guests trying to do the Limbo. They can sleep it off on the plane.
I believe that the surest way to "get attention" like the repeat guests is to become one. If you want it on the first visit, go latch onto the management person of your choice. To a great extent, they are respecting your privacy by not plopping down for dinner- unless you let them know you might like that. This is especially true with the DMs and Dockside Dive Center Instructors- if you invite them, they will join you~ otherwise they don't wish to risk intruding. Staff members do not fit the expected mold of the standard dinner guest. They may have to wolf down their food, they may have to grab their plate and trot off in mid-bite, they may have six side conversations during the meal. Just watch the circus and enjoy the show.
Here's a plan- get into dinner fairly early, sit yourself down at Doc Radawski's table- usually a few paces from the bar- and buy him a Port Royal. This is a very effective trick to lure him into talking to you. Or, you could just bring over some popcorn- that will likely work. Then, just sit and listen.