It isn't reasonable to compare your weight requirements to your wife's. Many things are at play, but in the end there may still be differences.
Starting with the easiest, happy feet (finning) can be cured by pure mind control or by crossing her ankles.
Emptying the BC can be practiced, be sure the open valve is fully at the top, so there aren't any trapped air pockets.
Burping the wet suit, while no fun in cold water, is especially important for women since their shape makes it more likely that air gets traped between the suit & the skin. You don't get as much chill if you burp while the neck seal is still out of the water.
Lung air retention is trickier, and subject to the catch 22 of diving; people who have problems descending know it, than makes them more anxious, so they hold more air, which makes it even worse. This will go away over time. Best bet; dive slightly overweighted, and as you gain confidence wean off the extra pounds one at a time.
Technique for easier descent, just before descending take a big breath & fin up hard for a second, lifting up out of the water slightly, empty BC & exhale on the drop, using the extra momentum to carry you down 3 or more feet before inhaling. Shallow breaths only for the next few feet to avoid popping back up.
When all is said & done, there will still be large weight differences among divers because of physiologal differences. Fat has a specific gravity of .9 or so, so every 10#s of body fat requires 1# of offsetting lead, Muscle is slightly denser than water & tends to sink, as does bone. For that reason a 225# tight end would need far less weight than a 225# overweight couch potato.
Women tend to have higher fat ratios then men & thus tend to need extra lead. You can somewhat predict the "body lead" needed by looking at high high someone floats in a pool, some float with their heads above the surface, some head & shoulders, & others, like myself sink & can walk across the bottom with no problem.
In the end, don't compare your wife's lead needs to yours, just try to help her optimize her weight for her needs.
Final note, experience speaking here, it'll go a lot easier on everybody if you get an outsider, or a professional to help. Teaching folks close to you doesn't always go as smoothly as one might hope.