The DA can handle 3000 PSI, and I'm still not sure why everyone seems to think that this would wear out the seats. IP keeps the seat closed, not tank pressure. If the IP is not creeping, the seat is closed with the same force as at lower tank pressure. In fact, the IP is lower at higher pressures due to the greater upstream force. There is a larger pressure gradient across the seat/orifice seal, but I don't see how that would cause premature wear to a relatively hard seat, and nobody has yet offered a plausible explanation that I've read.
You are correct in that the summation of forces on the Aqua Master seat at any tank is always about the same (the about could be very important).
The forces on the seat assembly are the:
(+) the force from the spring,
(+) the pneumatic tank pressure force (tank pressure times the area of the volcano orifice),
(-) the pneumatic IP force (IP pressure times the volcano orifice area),
(-) the force from the pin (being applied by the heavy diaphragm, see note), ,
(-) the compression force on the seat
The (+) and (-) are just my sign convention for the direction of the forces. The direction of all the forces mentioned never reverse. The pressure always pushes against the surface, and the same about the spring, the nylon seat, and the pin. The pin can only push from the diaphragm to the seat.
During equilibrium with the 1st stage valve closed all this forces will always add up to zero (since there is no acceleration). In other words the forces will balance each other out.
Two of this forces you know that they change proportional to tank pressure, the one that is not as obvious is the compression force on the seat.
Let me add that as you have notice and most anyone that have an Aqua Master can verify, the IP in a DA AM is not a hard locking IP without any possibility of creep. It often only creeps for a few psi and then it stops. That increase in pressure pushes the IP diaphragm a bit which in turns reduces the force on the pin. This allows a bit more force on the seat creating a better seal.
At high tank pressure there is a higher differential pressure from the tank pressure to the IP. If the volcano orifice and the seat are not perfect, this higher differential pressure will require a bit more seat compression force to create a good seal. IMO, this effect has been observed in many Aqua Masters.
IMO, the seat material in an Aqua Master has a lot to do with the required force to cause a good seal.
Is the higher seat compression significant… probably not, but it is impossible to tell since there are too many variables to determine longevity of any one particular seat.
The Aqua Master has a long history of working with 3000 psi and I would use it with that kind of pressure, but I personally prefer to use steel 72. I also prefer the Royal Aqua Masters anyway, so it is definitely not an issue for me.
Note: the HP diaphragms also experience its own set of forces:
(+) the pneumatic IP force (IP pressure times the diaphragm effective area),
(+) the force from the pin (being applied by the seat, equal an opposite the one mentioned above),
(-) heavy spring force,
(-) ambient pressure force (ambient pressure times the diaphragm effective area).
In my sign convention, forces pushing in the direction away from the valve continue to be positive (+).
I hope the explanation above makes sense.
BTW, adding actual numbers to the equation as described above is very easy. Some of the numbers (like effective diaphragm area and compressed spring force) may only be approximations, but it can give a good idea of the force magnitudes we are working with.
The Mistral is a somewhat different demand valve. The Mistral has also been used with 3000psi, but they definitely do not breathe as well. Seat wear is also an issue, maybe only a small issue, but in any case replacement seats are now available for the Mistral and they are an easy regulator to service.