But what I am not understanding is that my buddy right next to me - who is going up the same speed of me - is not getting any extra deco on his computer? When he starts going up it stops adding deco, heck it even takes some off. So is my comp just being it's uber-conservative self or am I doing something wrong?
This is exactly the point they are trying to get across to you. If you don't understand the differences in what the computers are telling you, and why, then you probably need to learn more about deco theory. The best way to do that is with an instructor or a mentor who is well versed in it. Learning from some random guy on the internet is not the way to do it, because you don't have any way to assess if they know any more about it than you do.
While the same may hold true in person as well, at least you are able to make a more personal assessment of them.