Another thing that pisses me off is dm's in vacation spots that put loa diver's on their octo and continuing the dive. I understand why they do it and don't fault the individual dm's, but its a bad example from someone in a position of authority, making it seem like it would be ok to just run your tank down, then just suckoff your buddies tank.
That's an interesting concern and I can see where it can go south.
My first thought was that it's no different than what I do when making vacation dives with my wife. She's a power breather so she spends some time on my alternate while we're outbound. We have it worked out so we both make good use of our fills and exit with a margin. However in this case it is planned and we have experience with the scenario. She even stows the alternate for me. She is my buddy, diving with me an nobody else has an expectation of us.
in the case of the DM being the donor it sounds like a reward for poor dive selection and buddy team performance. It can set a precedent for multiple LOA scenarios at once with excessive demands on a DM who has a whole party in the water. it also deprives the DM of flexibility he should have to manage the dive and tend to other needs. The alternatives would be to end the dive for all or send the needy buddy pair up early. I'm not an avid vacation diver but I realize that sending pairs up or turning the party on the spot is not always a good idea. I think in the end it's recreation and everyone want's to have the best time possible..... and earn a nice tip.
Pete