Karlos,
The Apeks has an outstanding system of isolating the first stage from the ambient water. I personally believe that it is the best system on the market. I have never been a big fan of using silicone grease/oil as a means of isolating the IP spring area due to the potential for leaks and general all-round mess.
That being said, I have never used the "anti-freeze" kits on my Mares, ScubaPro, Aqua Lung, or old Voit regs. I follow strict cold water diving protocols while making such dives and have never had a regulator free flow problem in more than 28 years. While I don't regularly ice dive, I do make many dives in deep quarries where the bottom temps never rise above the low 40's. From reports of other divers, I can safely say that no reg is totally immune from ice formation.
I do believe that the majority of free flowing second stages are actually the result of a first stage problem. Whenever the first stage goes into a "locked open" status, the downstream design second stage must relieve the excessive pressure. The potential for a second stage to ice over is certainly not remote, but is not typically the cuplprit. If the second stage is the problem, then a metal case or highly efficient heat sink near the second stage valve is some of the best protection.
The Mares Proton Ice is very small and offers the thermal conduction value of the brass case design. The first stage can be sealed with the silicone oil, but as I mentioned this is not without its problems.
The Apeks has the advantage of being able to be user tuned to have a lower work of breathing in relation to the inhalation resistance. The exhalation effort for both models will be relatively the same. This benefit also comes at the price of being a more complex mechanical system than that of the very simple Proton design. The Proton has very few parts, and an amazing small number of O-rings. They are very easy to tune, and have a robust design. The Apeks also has an excellent record for durability. I am also impressed with the fact that they don't need to make one modification after another to solve problems that have reared their ugly heads. The Brits certainly go this one right...
One of the drawbacks to the Proton is that tiny exhaust tee! If you are not moving forward then you can expect to see some exhaust bubbles. This is getting to be a far too common problem with today's regs. The Apeks is better in this regard, but is still not where it should be. I believe that ALL companies should look closely at the Atomic M1 tee and take heed. By the way, with my older regs (60's-80's) this really wasn't much of an issue. The purge button is also weak and stiff to push. This isn't a concern to me, as I don't ever recall using a purge button other than when teaching OW students in the technique. The Proton's internal volume is so low that not much gas is needed to blow it clear.
If you are making serious, expedition grade technical dives then go with the Apeks. While the Proton can be used at depths that most of us will never see, the adjustability of the Apeks is a winner in this regard. If like 90%+ of us rec/tech divers, then use your own judgement. Both are built to very high quality control standards from excellent materials.
I've no complaints from my Mares regs. I've made every attempt to overbreathe them at 140' on air and they never faltered one bit. In fact, a dive buddy and I purposely attempted to overbreathe one of my older MR12 Akros (2 second stages on the same first stage) regs at 125' in 39 degree water and still couldn't do so. I even once free flowed my AAS while breathing hard on the primary to see it it had a dramatic impact (done in warmer water, as it wouldn't advised to do so in 39 degree water). It still didn't have a readily apparent impact. My HP seats generally last for 150-200 dives and not once has a reg malfunctioned during a dive. So....Those are some of my reasons for continuing to use the Mares regs.
In closing, I have said this before, but...if I needed more performance for dives that exceed the parameters of my Mares models I would most likely purchase the Apeks models.
For what it's worth....
Greg