Buddy diving starts with an understanding and commitment to some fundamental concepts ... perhaps the most important being ...
"This is not
my dive ... this is
our dive."
Others being ...
"Do what my buddy expects me to do."
Buddy diving is based on a concept of "predictable behavior". You can't talk to your buddy underwater ... but you can communicate. Communication begins with a dive plan, and generally the best buddies will have a commitment to sticking as closely to the plan as is practical. That doesn't mean you can't deviate from the plan ... but that if you decide to you must first ...
- Communicate that desire to your buddy, and receive confirmation back that your buddy understand what you wish to do.
- Ascertain that you have the resources to do so ... and that your buddy also does (i.e., check to make sure you have adequate air first)
"Pay attention to what's going on around me."
Diving is very circumstantial ... we often react to things we see or conditions we didn't plan on. Paying attention to our surroundings, our adherence to the plan, interesting stuff we see off in the distance, or a chance encounter with a moving creature we want to follow and observe helps reduce reaction time and gives us time to communicate with our buddy before we make changes in speed or direction that might otherwise result in a separation.
"Signal before taking action."
This works just like it does on the freeway. Before you change lanes or exit, you signal first to let those around you know what you're planning to do. Diving works the same way. In fact, to take the driving analogy a bit further, let's say you've got someone following you somewhere that doesn't know where they're going. You take extra care to use signals to make sure they know what you're about to do. Diving with a buddy works pretty much the same way.
"Don't assume."
Putting on a dive mask removes something we've taken for granted our entire lives ... peripheral vision. In order to see what's going on around us ... or to pay attention to our buddy ... we need to learn a new behavior, which is the act of turning our head to see what's going on outside a relatively narrow window of vision. It's something we initially have to put conscious effort into doing ... and a bit of a pain. So a lot of divers don't do it. They assume that their buddy is where they expected them to be, and so when they eventually think to turn and look they end up asking themselves ...
"Hey! Where'd my buddy go?"
Also, if your buddy signals that they need to turn around ... or make an ascent ... or that they're uncomfortable with something ... don't assume that you know why. Unless the reason is visually obvious, opt to err on the side of safety and talk about it after you've surfaced or gotten back on the boat.
Rules are great ... they help everyone on a team get on the same communications wavelength and base their decisions and actions on the same criteria. But they need to be built around the basic skills required for a shared experience in any endeavor ... communication, a bit of self-discipline, and a commitment to
us rather than
me.
... Bob (Grateful Diver)