Where you are matters less than that you are where your buddy expects you to be.
Yup, and that both buddies check that regularly, to nip any separation tendencies in the bud and to be able to provide quick assistance in case of a problem. I'll probably have a more in-depth discussion about buddy formation with my IANTD trained buddy on our next dive together, I've been taking things a bit too much for granted so far. Mea culpa, I guess.
Sometimes ... like on a wall dive ... side-by-side isn't practical. As said above. use of dive lights can be helpful ... if your buddy can see your light, they know you're nearby.
Yep, but then your light signaling protocol is interrupted by what we primarily bring our lights for: To look beneath rocks and inside crevices to discover critters.
Personally I prefer to avoid the lead/follow approach, since I don't have eyes in the back of my head. But if it needs to happen, I prefer that my "following" buddy be a bit lower than me in the water, rather than a bit higher. That way I can look back and underneath my body ... which is a lot easier than having to stop and turn around all the time.
I prefer the side by side formation, since a quick turn of the head is all that's needed to check on my buddy. I've found that the "look back and underneath" works also for a buddy straight behind, but it requires about a quarter of a "tuck and roll". Not that difficult, but still a bit more than a quick twist of the head. The buddy position I really hate is when he's a couple of meters above and behind me. It's really awkward to look for him, and it sometimes involves so much head twisting that I get a cold splash down behind my neck seal. Ugh.
Some TDI divers seem to prefer the "flock of geese" formation
I've used that formation inadvertently, but I haven't considered it to be a conscious alternative except when I've been in threesomes. Got to think about that one.
Are you saying that you would like your buddy to be directly parallel with you (give or take a ft)
Yes. A slight lead or lag isn't a big deal, but as a rule we try to stay more or less directly parallel.
That depends on the viz, of course. Anything from elbow to elbow (in pea soup viz) to two-three, max four meters (in good viz). More than that makes me slightly uncomfortable, because it increases the risk of buddy separation, and I don't want to cover a longer distance if I suddenly should need my buddy's gas. Often, when diving with my regular buddy, we're so close that we occasionally make slight physical contact, which is nice, since we don't need to actually look to keep track of each others.
In my mind, swimming side by side could in many cases can be harder to keep track of a buddy especially in low vis. What if one of you stops or slows down to look at something while the other continues? What if one veers off right or left without the other one noticing?
The point of staying side by side is to have equal control of each other. In single file, if my (rear) rear buddy stops or slows down, I have a greater risk of continuing without him since I don't check on him as often as if we were side by side. Veering off is just as much of a problem with single file formation as with a side by side formation and is again easier to overlook because it's more of a hassle to check your buddy's position that often.
Besides, one buddy stopping isn't a problem if you keep good buddy contact. You check on your buddy, notice he's stopped and wait for him or turn back to take a look at what he's looking at. Veering off just isn't supposed to happen, and if you do, we'll talk about that when we break down our kits and discuss the dive.
If buddies are swimming single file and get separated (from low vis, etc) it is generally easier to find one another underwater, as long as each maintained their depth, the lead buddy backtracks/stays still and ends up finding his buddy following his "path". With a side by side profile, this would be much harder because you wouldn't know when exactly you lost them or what their trajectory is.
If I lose my buddy due to low viz, my buddy is most probably lost until we surface to recover contact. Looking for a lost buddy in 4m viz is pretty darned difficult, no matter if the formation was side by side or single file.
If you are side by side, what if they want to look at something to their right, but you are blocking the view/way (same goes for your left). What about larger groups (3-4 divers) side by side wouldn't be better then.
If we are side by side, I look to my left and point out the cool stuff for my buddy while my buddy looks to his right and points out the cool stuff for me. I don't look to my right for cool stuff, I look to my right to check my buddy's position. A threesome works just as well, but requires more discipline from the wingmen since the leading center diver has to keep track of buddies both left and right. A group of four is split into two buddy pairs who might well submerge together and try to keep together, but if they get separated it's no big deal since we're two pairs and not a group of four.
It is very much dependent on the terrain.
Yep. Over a fairly level - including slightly sloping - bottom, side by side is my formation of choice. On vertical walls, I prefer a front diver slightly above a rear diver, but the formation may well vary according to who is stopping for a moment to look at stuff. Often, we switch positions more or less like geese do when flying or like bicyclists do on the road.