Why do you care if you carry a different amount of weight from your friends? You carry what you need -- it's that simple. I am little and don't have a lot of body fat, so I shouldn't need to carry much weight. But I have no bone mass. My Fundies instructor swore he could take five pounds off me. He couldn't. I had done careful weight checks, and was carrying what I needed, not what anybody else might. At the time, I fretted about it. But nowadays? It is what it is. You carry what you need to get down and to hold a stop, and if that's different from your buddies, then it just is. The only way you can change what you need is to change your bone density, or lose weight and build muscle.