Or give her one last chance to change her mind about diving: tell her no booze beats nitrogen narcosis!Irene:I say get your priorities straight. Divorce the drunk, and go diving!
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Or give her one last chance to change her mind about diving: tell her no booze beats nitrogen narcosis!Irene:I say get your priorities straight. Divorce the drunk, and go diving!
engdiver:My spouse does not dive and has no desire to. We have been married for 13 yrs and the first ten years I only dived 1 or 2 times each year. The problem now has more to do with family (two small kids) time. What time I have left during the week is mostly devoted to them. I try to schedule diving ahead of time so that they know when I will be gone. Even then it is difficult. It is sometimes hard for someone who does not dive to understand why we all like to dive so much.
One big concern my wife has is my safety and I try to ensure her not to worry because I dive safely.
Giving her and the family vacation time in trade for some of my own has worked also. I t just makes it more difficult to plan vacations.
rhyz:So my question is how do most of you handle a non-diving spouse?
Edited: I quess it's a basic scuba question.....
Tanker299:... what "rhyz" was asking was how do you deal with a non-diving spouse. Some others added their own stories and light hearted banter about their own intricacies in dealing with it.
I don't think that anyone is advocating you leave your wife/husband just because she/he doesn't like diving, even the ones who suggested that as an alternative, it was said tongue-in-cheek, I'm sure you all saw that.
While some of you fine folks are to be commended for having such harmonious arrangements, some of us do not have that and it just takes a little bit more to get things done; that doesn't mean "diving or her/him". :no
Instead of giving up on diving just because she doesn't approve 100% of the time, even though I bang my head sometimes, we still come to a compromise. That's what a relationship is all about, whether you agree all the time about everything or you disagree all the time.
Irene:I say get your priorities straight. Divorce the drunk, and go diving!
minikinminx:Come on guys, say it aint so! What ever happened to communication and respect in a relationship?
I've got nothing against gifts and for the record, I do love getting flowers, but when in a relationship I wouldn't expect to be "paid" everytime he wanted to do something without me. Actually it's best if he has interests of his own.
A relationship needs a lotof give and take, but from both sides. Not one giving and the othertaking. Yes sacrifice is important in a relationship, but as far as I'm concerned nothing nor nobody is worth sacrificing yourself for.
No wonder I'm single :shakehead
rhyz:I've just recently gotten the diving bug, certified as of July 30th of 2006 and have 29 dives in so far. My deepest to date is the Oriskany at 135fsw. All I read about and think is when and where can I dive next. I fortunate that I work at home doing my custom woodworking and daytrading and am able to do my passion atm. I make decent money and as of late spend it mostly on diving.
But the wife isn't a diver nor will she ever be, she hates the water and things under the water. But lately my diving has gotten in her way it seems. I just returned from a 2 week vacation from Florida diving the Oriskany and a cple other wrecks off of Clearwater and am now going on a cruise Oct 1st. I'm diving 3 of the 4 island we spot at including PR from which we depart. She wants to do booze cruises and crap I could care less about and the normal crowd we cruise with isn't going this trip. Basically it's all her younger friends (30 and below) that are going. Party guys of which I really dont want to do, I'd rather dive.
So my question is how do most of you handle a non-diving spouse? Or justify your diving time? For me, it kinda bothers me, but not going into a whole lot of crap I would rather dive the half day then meet up with them later. For me I would rather see something unique than just spend the day drinking and miss a whole lot of wonderful sights U/W.
Edited: I quess it's a basic scuba question.....