Non-diver spouse??!!

[Dub5ire]

One way that may work is to do something that your wife likes and pretent to hate it. My wife loves casinos. We'll go for a couple of nights. I'll act like I'm doing something for her when I really don't mind, but it's important not to complain about it. Just look like your trying to make the best of it. In this way you get credit to do something you like which she isn't into, i.e. diving.

 

[RJP]

New Jersey has some of the best diving in the world.

Yeah, I'm married to a non-diver as well. I found the local diving to help bring a good balance. I get to dive, but I still get home early enough to rinse the gear end enjoy a night out with the wife.

Yup - NJ diving is fantastic, but being home "early" doesn't seem to be much consolation for my non-diving spouse.

Damn, she doesn't even like lobster. So it's not as if bagging a few bugs will help ease the pain. In fact, I'm in MORE trouble when I bring 'em home than if I didn't!

Now if I could manage to catch a few crabcakes while I'm out, that'd be a different story.

 

[JahJahwarrior]

One of the posts made me realize: I got taught by several instructors during my OW cert, two of them were married at one point. Now one of them owns a dive shop and the other is an instructor (or something like that) there. When the one of them got sick, the other was there the next day to teach us. Oddly enough, he did the entire thing backwards of how his ex wife had done it, and he even mentioned it. For exmaple, she drew the map to the dive place with north pointing down on the whiteboard. She had us dive first one spring, then the second. He had us start on the second and move to the first one. Little things like that....

 

[Cacia]

One way that may work is to do something that your wife likes and pretent to hate it. My wife loves casinos. We'll go for a couple of nights. I'll act like I'm doing something for her when I really don't mind, but it's important not to complain about it. Just look like your trying to make the best of it. In this way you get credit to do something you like which she isn't into, i.e. diving.

OLDEST trick in the book. Just last night about 6 pm Jb wanted to go down to the boat. I said "oh...I am so tired..." But I milked it even though I wanted to go down too and just sit on it. I said when we got home "I hope you appreciate me keeping you company even though I was so tired." and he started to laugh and busted my fake butt. So...if you try this, I hope you keep that silly grin off your face. A variation with this theme is to tell kids they are GROUNDED when they cannot go for some other reason.

 

[mdb]

So my question is how do most of you handle a non-diving spouse?

Just the way you handle a marriage. You find things of common interest and respect that. I've been married to a "Non diver" for over 30 years. She does love to be by the ocean, and enjoys boat trips, nites with clear skies, new cultures, etc. We pick good spots, not normally live aboards, she has plenty to do and I get to dive.

 

[mdb]

good to know that former married partners can still "get along".