nu-diver:We have had a few candid conversations about this and he say's you should always stick with your buddy. I also told him that I would be posting this question here to get the opinions of other divers. It will be an interesting read for both of us. Thanks.
To maybe put some perspective on this I dive both solo and I dive with buddies. When I dive solo I do it consciously and with a particular goal in mind and my motivation is usually to not be hindered by the group. In that sense I can appreciate your husband's "free spirit". There is certainly some risk involved in solo diving but every individual (I believe) should be left to judge if this risk is acceptable to them. The wise ones will also discuss it with their loved ones because in actual fact, the risk isn't your alone to bear.
When I dive with a buddy, however, then my buddy is a teammate and the dive plan is a *Team* plan. The plan is made together and we plan-our-dive-and-dive-our-plan. I'm very disciplined about this with both my buddies and with myself. If my buddy isn't happy with a penetration then it should come up in the pre-dive planning and there is no giving in to temptation.... Period. In buddy diving, communication is paramount and the team operates to the comfort zone of all the divers...not just some of them and certainly not just one of them. It seems to me that this is where you and your husband are having a disconnect. What you actually do as a team is up to you but either way the plan has to be a team plan.
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