Rick Murchison:
This sort of "tribal" reaction to "outsiders" happens all over the world. The tribe may be ethnic, religious, national, regional, economic, familial...
This is true, and it happens to a certain degree in Hawaii also. Our state is a literal cultural melting pot, but there are underlying aspects of racism/prejudice. However, the prejudice is not limited to only "mainland haoles" - it also exists between locals.
ThatsSomeBadHatHarry:
Im going to be moving there in a few months and was wondering about some of the rumors i have heard about violence or discrimination toward non-natives.
People born and raised in Hawaii are described as "local". I'm not sure if you're referring to Hawaiians only when you say "native" or you mean the "local" people in general.
It's a complicated issue and can't really be discussed adequately in this type of setting, but the distrust that the older generation of Hawaiians (in general) had against "outsiders" stems from waaaay back - like over 100 years ago - with the overthrow of the monarchy. It's still a very sensitive issue for those of native Hawaiian descent - and the issue carries over to today.
Another more relatively "current" incident that happened that shaped the way a lot of people in my grandparents' generation viewed "outsiders" was what is commonly known as the "Massie Affair". PBS did a show about this within the last year or so, and it was very good.
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/amex/massie/
Also, recently a book has been published on the story - I haven't yet gotten to read it, but here's an article that reviews it and briefly covers the incident:
http://the.honoluluadvertiser.com/article/2005/Apr/17/il/il16a.html
The distrust and prejudice held by the older generations got passed down in diluted forms until we're where we are now. It's not as bad as it was when my parents were kids, but it still exists. It will probably be less when my daughter has her children.
But we're talking about now. Sorry - I felt I had to give a bit of background to show partly why it is the way it is today. Generally, as Al said, you get what you give. And as Catherine said, the "local culture" is different, and may take some adjusting to. I lived on the mainland for 8 years, and when I returned home, I had to readjust to "local ways" all over again.
And, as Melissa pointed out, sometimes there are those people that no matter what you do, they're (expletive).