I am not suggesting that "you guys" are adrenaline junkies at all. I asked the question but in no way am I suggesting that I believe it to be the case. The serious cave divers I know are indeed the furthest thing from it. They are thoughtful, introspective people. (Having said that, I think some of the touristy types are a little). Please don't take my questions as criticism of your chosen type of diving. Just because I don't understand it doesn't make it wrong. I am simply trying to understand why, knowing the risks and so on, people choose to undertake these dives.
As for you having to console three wives, well I suppose that kind of underscores what I mean. I don't understand the point of tackling dives such as this when consoling widows is going to almost certainly be an outcome sooner or later. I prefer to end my dives having a cold beer on a boat. And I assume that the vast, vast majority of your dives end with a cold beer in a parking lot. So you see, we aren't that different!
But again, my question is not meant in any way to be a criticism. I find "your" dives to be amazing in their complexity... doesn't mean I understand the "why" however, and you haven't really explained it either in your comments. Perhaps you don't understand why you do them either. That wouldn't be all that surprising since I also don't really understand why I do the dives I do. The money, the time spent... there's not much difference really, only in the degree of risk.